norsky, thank you for telling me your story.
I too had a father who was not a nice person. Even with all he did to me I never hated him, nor did I distance myself from him.
In reading your life story it appears to me you left/abandoned your father, so eventually to make admends, you were the one to forgive.
In the case of my brother, I don’t hate him, but because he is the one who said he didn’t want anything to do with me I take him at his word. I won’t break that boundry he set until he apologizes and says he didn’t mean it.
He abandoned the whole family for 13yrs one time. It was me who located him and got us back together. I don’t expect an out and out apology from him as I know he is not the type of person who would do that. All he would have to do is e-mail me or call on the phone and just talk about things in our lives. The only thing he has done since, is e-mail me the link to the copy of Trumps indictment. IMO the only reason for him to do that is to rub it in further.
Once again thanks for your response.
Spunky, I hate to say it, but your brother could have an advanced case of TDS. It’s got all of the markings of Trump Derangement Syndrome.
I am being completely serious. When people are so deeply attached to their hatred for Trump, all logic and reason goes out the window. TDS has sliced through many families. I am so sorry your brother caught it. If he’s always been a bit of an emotional person, I am sure my diagnosis fits.
Not much you can do, other than pray and maybe drop him the odd email just to tell him you still think about him, if you’re comfortable doing that. It’s a real thing. A sickness.
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I wasn't abandoned by him, we still attended family gatherings. We just didn't get along, not arguing just not a warm relationship like my brother and sisters. So, ya, kind of abandoned, life wasn't easy, he was a hard worker and built houses, that took most all of his time and worries. Thanks for sharing your story too. It is best to make peace if you can and not give back tit for tat.