“I remember when I made peace with my father when I was 40, it was a good thing letting go of the past. I am sure glad I did it before he past away.”
norsky, were YOU the one who broke it off from him? Or did HE break off from you?
I feel the one/ones who DO the BREAKING OFF are the ones who have to make amends.
When my brother told me over the phone, he “didn’t want anything to do with ANYONE, who had anything to do with Trump. I was flabbergasted and I said, OK! Then I hung up.
It’s been almost 2 years now. A few months ago I e-mailed him and said “IF he DIDN’T MEAN what he said to me, I thought he owed me an apology” I haven’t heard back from him.
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It was like this. 5 kids in my family and I was the one my father didn't get along with, got the ruff treatment. I was certainly not the favorite.. When I was 33 I became a Christian and I new I had to forgive . So I thought I did. One night I had a bad dream where I was severely beating my father. I realized God was showing me I had rage in my heart for him for how he treated me. I decided to write him a letter and told him that I did not hold anything against him and I also told him that I loved him, which is something we never said in our family. He wrote back and said that is the nicest thing anyone has ever said to him. I realized later he also had a very hard life in Norway in the 30's, he was also rejected . So God softened my heart and also his. I decided to forgive even though I was the one receiving the harsh treatment. So God opened my eyes. You see I also had a problem with one of my boys and I found out I was doing the same to him even though I did not like what my father did. Now my son is having the same problem with his son. So now I have to make him understand what is happening. It is a generational spiritual curse that needs to be broken by forgiveness.
So we really don't understand that curses have power and consequences, even casual ones. When I was 5 and getting a severe whipping that wasn't ending, I said I was going to hate my father in my mind. After that I started having anger and impulsive rage issues which I did not get rid of until I was in my 40's when God revealed the source of it to me.
When God was telling us we must forgive it wasn't a request, it is for our own good and so that we can restore our relationships. With God all things are possible.