Posted on 10/25/2023 1:41:00 PM PDT by grundle
I wasn’t planning on grandchildren for at least another five years, but my son came home at age 22 and informed me that he was going to be a father. I am not a fan of his girlfriend at all; there is just something about her that makes me not trust her. I tried to communicate this to my son, but he is blinded by her beauty, among other things, and has never been able to hear what I have to say about her.
Now that the baby has arrived, my son truly has blinders on. He is so in love with his baby boy that the idea of getting a paternity test seems pointless to him. I told him that he should get it just to remove all doubt that the baby might not be his. They have had plenty of heated arguments while she was pregnant, and she is guilty of spewing comments about the baby not being his. My son assures me that she only has said those things out of anger and that the baby is most certainly his.
I wasn’t planning on grandchildren for at least another five years, but my son came home at age 22 and informed me that he was going to be a father. I am not a fan of his girlfriend at all; there is just something about her that makes me not trust her. I tried to communicate this to my son, but he is blinded by her beauty, among other things, and has never been able to hear what I have to say about her.
Now that the baby has arrived, my son truly has blinders on. He is so in love with his baby boy that the idea of getting a paternity test seems pointless to him. I told him that he should get it just to remove all doubt that the baby might not be his. They have had plenty of heated arguments while she was pregnant, and she is guilty of spewing comments about the baby not being his. My son assures me that she only has said those things out of anger and that the baby is most certainly his.
I told my son that he needs to be reimbursed for any and all monies he spent on her prenatal care. I personally want the money back for what we spent on throwing her a baby shower and on big-ticket items we bought, like the car seat, crib, and pack-and-play. My son is emotionally scarred and can’t think straight right now, so it is my job to make sure he is asking for the right things. Is it petty to demand money back for what my son and I spent on a child that’s not his?
If that happens, some mothers may have some explaining to do, right there after having their baby.
Being a stepping stone is one of many hard lessons in life.
I recall a lesson from grade school about crossing a rail road tracks.
STOP LOOK AND LISTEN it covers many subjects.
Legally, that may not be correct -- if deliberate fraud could be proven. As a practical matter, it absolutely is. Dad needs to tell his boy "Let her keep the cheese, you just get out of the trap
He didn’t “knock her up”....That’s what this whole thing is about...he’s not the one who got her pregnant...
Lo mejor es evitar que lleve El apellido de TU familia para prevenir futuras demandas, por lo Demas no te preocupes.... al menos que sea una cantidad considerable.
I am assuming (and we all know what that does) that the child is under a year. If so it can be done.
However if he does not do it now he can kiss his money goodbye because the courts say, "you had the evidence for HOW long? And you did nothing? Ok, your inaction means you accepted the child as yours regardless of DNA."
I know people want to be nice and work things out in a civilized manner. But when it comes to legal matters that works against you. When it comes to legal matters it is best to hit quick and hard because the longer you let it drag on the more screwed you are going to be.
"Haven’t we seen stories RE a judge forcing the non-father to make child support payments?"
For the benefit of anyone reading this in a similar circumstance:
(disclaimer: I am not an attorney, and State laws differ on paternity)
- These grandparents (or not-grandparents) have zero standing. They themselves can’t do a thing but advise.
- The guy in question may or may not have signed an affadavit of parentage(AOP). This document is a Good Thing if someone is in fact Dad as it preserves parental rights and in the event of Mom being a bad actor who wants to split, helps show Dad was involved from the beginning if it comes to custody struggles.
- Conversely, like here, the AOP is your bane if you’re not. Georgia may not have laws to undo paternity but if not or until, if the guy signs, he’s Dad legally and financially. A test is legally just evidence which is nothing without a case.
- Nation-wide, the standard for child support is ‘in the best interest of the child.’ If Guy paid for the birth, and is supporting the child, and is acting like Dad to the child, and then Mom suddenly wants to hang with biological Dad and files for support, there’s a very good chance support will be ordered against Guy. (Don’t ask me to quite explain how a kid is best served by embittering every adult, and financially empowering Mom to teach the kid that people including them are disposable money buckets).
- Besides the obvious advice to get married before children and stay that way, which is too late for this guy, the next advice would be to talk her into talking bio-dad into signing one of those AOPs. That way if the mess gets worse he’s got a good case (literally) for why the process shouldn’t steamroller his life.
The real people involved won’t see this and it probably wouldn’t help anyway. It’s so wierd but people who have a track record of making bad decisions like “I want to have a boyfriend and some dudes on the side” or “I know she’s sleeping around but” tend to not listen to good advice. Usually takes a big flat shovel of reality in the face before change happens ... if at all.
That might encourage them to refrain from activities that require "explaining".
Oh, yeah ...
Don't marry a proper garden tool.
i’d follow up with civil law suit
Is this the mother of the son?
I would sue the woman and the real father in civil court
They’re not married, girlfriend is the term the author used.
I would put a lawsuit on record to give other men fair warning. They don’t have to get everything back, just some and consider the rest payment for services rendered.
The baby deserves a better mother; it’s too bad there’s no way to retrieve the innocent from the guilty and give the baby a better chance in life. Unless, of course, his son keeps getting girlfriends and begetting offspring instead of waiting for a wife.
Paternity tests are one reason many married women strongly support abortion. Some married women fool around, and are not sure who the father is, so they like the have the abortion option to avoid later problems.
In this case, like many, it is likely the child’s support will come from the government and will be raised by a single mom with limited emotional stability. Many of these kids, especially boys, would be better off placed in an orphanage.
Sue the biological father?
surely you cant just put anyones name as the father on the birth certificate? I mean what would prevent every woman from claiming Trump is the father of their baby then? Surely the man has to agree to be put on the birth certificate to begin with
If he’s got his name on the birth certificate he may already be on the hook for 18 years.
Lawyer up.
See if you can get the article posting corrected. One must read post #2 to learn about a vital aspect of the story. And poor Reno is getting busted for apparently need reading #2.
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