Posted on 10/25/2023 1:41:00 PM PDT by grundle
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I wasn’t planning on grandchildren for at least another five years, but my son came home at age 22 and informed me that he was going to be a father. I am not a fan of his girlfriend at all; there is just something about her that makes me not trust her. I tried to communicate this to my son, but he is blinded by her beauty, among other things, and has never been able to hear what I have to say about her.
Now that the baby has arrived, my son truly has blinders on. He is so in love with his baby boy that the idea of getting a paternity test seems pointless to him. I told him that he should get it just to remove all doubt that the baby might not be his. They have had plenty of heated arguments while she was pregnant, and she is guilty of spewing comments about the baby not being his. My son assures me that she only has said those things out of anger and that the baby is most certainly his.
I had my concerns about the baby’s complexion and even his little features. In my heart of hearts, I didn’t think it was my grandchild. My son finally agreed to get the paternity test done last week, to my surprise. The results confirmed my suspicion. She was cheating on my son and got pregnant by another man. My son is beside himself with anger and humiliation and cannot believe she would go to such lengths to actually lie about something so serious.
I told my son that he needs to be reimbursed for any and all monies he spent on her prenatal care. I personally want the money back for what we spent on throwing her a baby shower and on big-ticket items we bought, like the car seat, crib, and pack-and-play. My son is emotionally scarred and can’t think straight right now, so it is my job to make sure he is asking for the right things. Is it petty to demand money back for what my son and I spent on a child that’s not his?
Suckered. The state loves your generosity. It has zero motivation to find anything to the contrary.
Quick question, did they do the paternity test and is or is he not the father?
I had my concerns about the baby’s complexion and even his little features. In my heart of hearts, I didn’t think it was my grandchild. My son finally agreed to get the paternity test done last week, to my surprise. The results confirmed my suspicion. She was cheating on my son and got pregnant by another man. My son is beside himself with anger and humiliation and cannot believe she would go to such lengths to actually lie about something so serious.
He is NOT the father.
not the father
Yes. It is petty. Call it "Tuition" for the School of Life and move on a bit wiser for the experience.
The son is justifiably scarred. Dad needs to think straight for him at this point
Going after money spent on the child is, IMHO, a waste of time. The legal process will be long and fruitless, and the woman won't have it anyway. Don't expect "justice."
At this point, he above all needs an immediate and clean divorce, and to protect his existing assets
Be grateful for the half-a-million $$$ you’ve both saved over the coming 20 years and move on.
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The first thing he need to do is hire a lawyer to petition the court to remove his name as the child’s father to avoid support payments.
Sex is like everything else in life: It’s best to do it God’s way and not the world’s ways.
Reminds me of that old joke: How’s your wife and my kids?
i didnt get the impression they were married
ummm. these items were gifts.
there is no way to go after them.
They’re not married so need for divorce
The child is an innocent party. Why doubly hurt the child?
So this is not something that happened to Grundle but something this FREEPER saw in the media.
Interesting situation to consider, however.
It's stupid. You will never see a cent. Asking for it just makes you look like a fool.
Cut your losses and stay away from the trifling bitch.
Is anyone thinking about the child and what is best for it? If I had bonded with a “grandchild” and later found out it wasn’t really my son’s, I don’t think I could easily give up that bond.
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