They talked to me a lot. It was like an hour long meeting before we talked to my grandmother about going to hospice. And then we had almost the exact same talk with her. And then another similar talk with the hospice once we moved her over. As is always the case with human institutions they’re run differently, because people are different. My experience was as close to good as having a relative die can be, sorry yours was different. But don’t throw out the baby with the bathwater. The hospice concept is good, and when run well it’s much better for everyone involved.
My father was at hospice at home which was awesome. Perhaps because he was a transfer, that’s where the confusion took place, but, I called the center and the nurse before he was taken there. I voiced my concerns beforehand (as indicated here). I feel they betrayed me as they did exactly what I told them I was concerned about them doing.
Your situation sounds much better. And they were fabulous at home. They were pleasant at the center as well, just .. the situation I explained. (My mother and I spent the entire week there day and night) we never left. She had a cot in the room and I slept on a sofa in one of the tv/relation areas. I definitely won’t avoid using them. I’m just fully aware what will occur, regardless of what someone says. I guess we live and learn. But, it will be a guilt I’ll carry for the rest of my days.