Your situation sounds much better. And they were fabulous at home. They were pleasant at the center as well, just .. the situation I explained. (My mother and I spent the entire week there day and night) we never left. She had a cot in the room and I slept on a sofa in one of the tv/relation areas. I definitely won’t avoid using them. I’m just fully aware what will occur, regardless of what someone says. I guess we live and learn. But, it will be a guilt I’ll carry for the rest of my days.
Sounds like where my grandmother wound up was just all around better. They had chairs in the room that were convertible to beds. It’s unfortunate your experience was so bad. The end can never be good, but the point of hospice is to make it as not awful as possible.