[norsky]

Dealing with childhood trauma. I had a patient who's son was in his 60's who was a police detective ,he was going thru therapy for the things that happened as a child. I thought to myself, why can't he get over it? But I realized later that most people still have that little child in them that struggles with suppressed memories of abuse in words and physical punishment.

So in my own life when I became a Christian in my 30's I realized I needed to forgive my father, so I did, but it was superficial because one night I had a terrible dream of severely beating my father. I woke up and thought, what the hell. I realized God was showing me the rage I still had inside that was suppressed. So I sat down and wrote my father a letter and told him I did not hold anything against him and and loved him, something we never said. I also realized he was under a lot of stress and that he had undergone worse treatment then I had back in Norway before the war and during Nazi occupation.

So what I am saying is that, it is good to bring these things out, but there is a resolution that you can get healing from these wounds. We have to forgive and realize our own failures. Right now I see my son doing the same thing I did to him and my father did to me and on and on. So the cycle can be broken.

[combat_boots]

Cool message

[JudyinCanada]

Wise words - thanks, norsky.

[pax_et_bonum]

We have to forgive and realize our own failures.

I agree.

I also had to learn that I had been forgiving people too readily.

I’ve learned that my genuine love and concern for others can be used against me by certain types of people.

I’ve become more wise.

:-)

[pax_et_bonum]

Also, thanks for sharing your positive approach to life, norsky.

It’s appreciated.

Sorry about your dad.

I don’t think we ever fully heal from parental rejection but that rejection helps us to understand the great importance of not rejecting others except for a serious reason.

[Rusty0604]

Thank you for sharing norsky. Good advice.

[Spunky]

One may forgive but it is hard to forget.

With all I went through with my father and step-father, after I married I ALWAYS included them in the family hollidays etc.

But when my step-father would say things that hurt me, it would bring those memories back to the surface.

[CottonBall]

Wonderful post and meme

❤️