Posted on 06/11/2023 11:53:33 PM PDT by Morgana
A clip of a weeping transgender man has swept the internet, after he cried while saying how much harder it was to strike up meaningful friendships as a man than it had been as a woman.
James Barnes, who was born female but transitioned to male eight years ago, works as a life coach to help others going through life changes. He recently opened up about the challenges he's faced since becoming a man - especially loneliness.
Breaking down in tears, Barnes said: 'No one told me how lonely being a man is.
'I had closer friendships with random women I met in the bathroom at clubs before I transitioned because of how open women are, than I've had in my 8 years of transitioning because women are just so much more vulnerable and deep than men.
'We knew what depth felt like before we transitioned, we knew what it felt like to have people want to hug us, and have people want to talk to us, and have a community.
'And then you transition and you're just a guy walking down the street that people cross the street so they're not near you. And friendships are so much harder to build, and people are colder.'
Barnes, who is also a motivational speaker said while holding back his tears, 'I also now understand why the suicide rate is so much higher with men, because this s**t is lonely.
'I am an emotionally matured man, I know how to build friendships, and it's still really really hard.'
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Guess SHE really didn’t feel like a man after all
While there are a lot of stereotypes about the difference between male and female friendships, people are along a sliding scale of emotional neediness friendships. Generally speaking, women’s friendships include emotional support and willingness to confide personal issues while men’s friendships are usually activity-based (e.g., my golfing buddy, my hunting buddy, my drinking buddy, my professional colleague). I saw a meme yesterday which illustrated this divide: a woman asks another woman whether she is getting fat. Her friends says “of course not, you’ve never been more beautiful.” then it shows a man asking the same question of his friend and his friend replies “I know five fat people and you are four of them.”
I happen to be a woman who shares little emotionally and I would never consider calling up a friend and venting to her. I might inquire as to how said friend is doing but honestly I am not that interested in the gruesome details. This drove my mother and sister nuts but I am who I am.
It seems to me, an amateur psychologist, that “transpeople” are probably high in emotional neediness in the first place so this social reality hits them hard. As for whether her role as a life coach remains viable, I wouldn’t be surprised if she carries on. A whole lot of “life coaches” seem pretty messed up with or without being “trans”.
> Life tip. Don’t try to strike up a relationship in the men’s room.
The ex-chick has NO idea how men work.
Correct.
Another often overlooked issue is the role the endocrine system plays not just in GD but depression. Too many hormones or too few and things go wrong.
Post-partum is a sign of a depleted endocrine system. Menopause is the winding down of the endocrine system. Hell, even diabetes is endocrine based.
This is all related.
A clip of a weeping transgender man has swept the internet
was born female but transitioned to male eight years ago, works as a life coach to help others going through life changes
The mentally unstable helping others become mentally unstable
Today's transgendered "men" aren't liberal as in the Bill Clinton type. These days they are "WOKE men"; very angry, touchy and emotionally explosive. For never is such a thing as being WOKE enough in the WOKE WORLD
"WOKE" is a very lonely place even for a biological male. Because if you aren't at the very top where the definers are, you better keep SILENT else you will be CANCELLED.
This isn't the world as in the 90s where liberals got excited to be debating anything. This the ROARING 20s, where THEY WILL ROAR AND EAT YOU IF YOU ARE NOT WOKE ENOUGH.
And sympathy around WOKE men? Get real, the only sympathy they have is for their WOKE social justice culture warriors on the front lines. For the blowback folks like AOC and the Squad get.
No, this "man" isn't just lonely but extremely lonely in a WOKE World or their own making.
Barnes, who is also a motivational speaker[,] said while holding back his tears, 'I also now understand why the suicide rate is so much higher with men, because this s**t is lonely.'
JudyinCanada: I would imagine that the main reason the suicide rates increase after one tries to become the opposite sex is because they get very lonely and even more confused.
I believe that the "motivational speaker" is referring here to the statistically established higher suicide rates among men, in general (in comparison with women) - not to the increased likelihood of suicide after "transitioning" (though that, certainly, is also an objective fact - indeed: regardless of the "direction" of the "transition," from male to female or from female to male).
And that is a very well-founded statement!
Men are far more prone to suicide. And I don't think that it has to do with higher testosterone levels, etc. - rather, I think that it's due to the more-onerous societal role men are expected to play, and the fact that society tends to view men as "expendable."
Regards,
For many years, our neighbor’s granddaughter spent the summer with them. We were inseparable. To me she was my twin sister. When she arrived the summer we turned 13, she told me that I was a rival to her new boyfriend. I never saw or heard from her again.
Welcome to reality.
This poor sot need to up the dose of testosterone. The goal is a strong male F.U. attitude. Or go get detransitioned.
The "motivational speaker" is attempting to justify the "cool" attitude most women affect towards most men by claiming that women are "more vulnerable" and "deeper."
Poppycock! This is not Victorian Era-England!
Women are now strong and independent, after all!
So why, really, should women now be any less friendly towards this person than before? (And yes: That's a rhetorical question!)
(I'm assuming that this "motivational speaker" moves in a milieu - maybe NY or SF - where "transitioning" is viewed positively - not in the American Heartland, where random pedestrians will, of course, shy away from freaks walking down the sidewalk - so any "aloofness" the speaker perceives is supposedly due solely to its new status as a "male," and not to the fact that it "transitioned.")
Regards,
Not really germane to this thread - but I share the sentiment.
bagster has truly transitioned!
Regards,
‘No one told me how lonely being a man is.’
Poor woman still doesn’t know...she is not a man.
If I may ask: What changed???
Why did she no longer feel the need to "wear the mask?"
Regards,
Nobody CAN TELL YOU WHAT YOUR LIFE WILL BE LIKE.
HEY, PUTZ, you make your life what it is you want it to be.
If you can’t handle that, you are a born LOSER.
I shall not bore you with the obstacles I had to face.
She made more money than she expected......LOL
Plus I wound up dating someone else, so...........
Men don’t go to the bathroom to make friends.
I would recommend to anybody in that position, before trying to “transition” into a man, look into Norah Vincent. She went undercover as a man almost 20 years ago, and what she experienced broke her. I can’t speak to what it’s like being a woman, but I know from experience, being a man isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Leftists tend to over-exaggerate our “privilege”.
One persons “lonely” is another’s “blessed solitude”
.. weeping transgender .. cried ..
... life coach to help others going through life changes. ..
Breaking down in tears, ... ‘No one told me ....
... random women I met in the bathroom at clubs ... more vulnerable and deep than men.
.. what depth felt like .. hug .. talk ..community.
.. that people cross the street so they’re not near you. .. people are colder.’
.. also a motivational speaker ..holding back his tears,..
..emotionally matured man, I know how to build friendships, and it’s still really really hard.’
This poor lost soul is a steaming hot mess. Transitioning will not help
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