Tell her she can’t do anything until she’s 18. But it is your personal advice that she decides to wait until she’s 25 when her frontal lobe is fully developed.
Probably continue to pray for them but disown/shun them until if/when they stop the nonsense.
I would suggest that she has been brainwashed into believing rubbish. I would offer her detransitioning videos, many of which are powerful. No chance I would ever offer her even one word of support by joining her in her bizarre fantasy.
Can she take a punch in the face? Support a family financially? Kill the mouse in the bathtub? Those are some of the true measures of being a man.
Sounds like she grew up around brothers, so used to that norm—except for the girly-girl expectations that her mother put on her.
Used to be girls could grow up liking and participating in activities with their brothers without it leading to the idea that they must have been “born in the wrong body”!
If it were me, I’d be thankful it wasn’t the other transition... i.e., male to female. I have an ex-neighbor, one of whose sons went that route in his 40s. I don’t think the result is pretty, although he/she/it seems to be having the time of “their” life.
What I find interesting is before the Marxist domestic enemies in the media and in education started pushing this perversion on children, the percentage of the population that was transgender was something like .03 %. Now they are saying it’s 5% which is what, a 166% increase? So how does that happen unless these kids are being coerced into it? How many future serial killers are they creating today, kids when they grow up wont be able to deal with the fact that they mutilated their genitals?
You will always be my daughter and I will always love you..
I will not..and can not pretend you are not my daughter.
“I don’t know if I can EVER accept her as my son”
It’s simple. You don’t have to because she isn’t. The very fact that you are the type to even debate this is the reason why your child turned out the way she did.
Get them mental heath care. Find out who is feeding them this BS.
Kids her age often do strange things. I would counsel patience, and gentle questioning. Quick and drastic action is warranted when someone is in physical danger. There is no physical danger here. No threat of self-harm, or of harming others, etc.
Such sick freaks in society today. They belong in mental institutions. Lock em up and throw away the key. Sick stuff.
I’d say “No you’re not”. “You never will be.”
At 17 peer pressure is the greatest influence upon individual identity.
I would be supportive, and ask one request of her, “That she not do anything that might be harmful to her body until after age 25.”
I’ve worked with a lot of lesbians over the years to help them better to understand themselves, never to judge.
Often, when a child has developed no individual sense of self and they leave the family influence to enter college, the new peer pressure to fit in with their group of friends is very strong.
For many of them, it is a peer group identity, not an individual identity.
I would tell them it is their decision but they will not make it with my money.
That means no college money, no housing money—and they must move out when they are eighteen.
a. Since I an a father I would ask where her father is.
b. I would tell her I love her, but that it would be tough fatherly, honest, love.
c. I would also tell her she has no idea, nor will she ever know, what it is like to be a male.
d. I would tell her that she doesn’t get to pick the name that I address her by.
e. Hormones and surgery are about the worst decisoion she could make.
marcia gay harden has three children
one is gay
one is nonbinary
and
one is gender fluid
what are the odds of that?
She needs to be sat down and told she’s been lied to.
There are only males and females, through science and though hormone treatment can modify, it will not change that fact that one is either male or female.
Today a woman can live and love whomever. Physically altering one’s being never ends well.
Step 1. Stop using the word “support.” What this mother is thinking of doing for her mentally ill isn’t “supportive,” it’s “enabling.” She may as well buy her daughter a bottle of vodka and a package of razor blades and tell her, “Go ahead, slit your wrists.”
“...the fact that she was born very much in the wrong gender and body.”
Nope, sorry. A newborn is like a piece of clay. It doesn’t know what it is. It only knows that it is a result of what happens around it. It knows discomfort and comfort. It knows what it feels like hot, cold, pain, and sometimes wet, not what others feel or determine for it. It trusts and distrusts based upon how it feels. And if the feeling is preferable or frightening will create a behavior. It doesn’t even know it is poopy until it is taught that being stinky is not a good behavior as it is discomforting to others. (Potty training)
There cannot be anything that provides a determined behavior in a newborn so everything that is provided to the child to react to is involuntary until the behavior is learned.
Let’s supposed there is no gender identity. Then everything would be accomplished through task. But that’s impossible as what we call men can’t have babies. And transformed gender can’t either except for desires to accomplish something at a personal level.
So are we not describing learned behavior? And a child does not have that or can interpret that until they can be taught. So what they are taught is what they are. Not what they are born as.
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