There's the 'what women want' FACADE and the ACTUAL things women are drawn to such as a dude who treats them like DIRT and slaps them around a bit so they'll have something to complain about with the girls.
NICE MEN GET NOWHERE and are IGNORED by females.
Seriously? You do that to my family and a male family member would knock sense into you, at the very least.
I’ve known a few girls who liked bad boys. Several of them are now pushing up daisies due to their choices.
Not in the Philippines, where I went. 🤗
Most women would knock a good family man out of the way to get to a use-them-and-lose-them bad boy type.
When I was single after me first wife died very young, I found that most women didn’t really give you must time to make an impression. I wasn’t Hollywood but I was not hard on the eyes; I wasn’t Bezos, but I had a job, but I was a good communicator and somewhat of a romantic. If they had really taken the time, they would also have found out that I loved to cook, did laundry, enjoyed gardening and wasn’t averse to watching a good rom-com. But I didn’t own a Beemer and don’t live in the right neighborhood. So, they weren’t interested in putting out much effort. One or two dates and they moved on.
When I met my present wife, 26 years ago, she was just reentering the social scene after taking care of her parents. We took our time and got to know each other. She was blown away the day I cooked breakfast after cleaning up the kitchen. I told her I had done all the cooking in my first marriage. The first time she got sick, I put her to bed, made her some hot tea and stayed the night (in a separate bedroom) to care for her and the dog. Again, blown away. Over time she found out about all the other ‘unicorn’ traits I came with. We are celebrating our 25th anniversary tomorrow.
It takes time to get to know someone and I don’t think most young people have the patience to do the due diligence anymore. They want instant gratification and with that you get superficiality not longevity.
That sounds like the mindset I had in high school.
First off, women aren’t a monolith. There are some dumbass women out there that have stupid criteria by which they choose men. There are men who do the same. But they don’t ALL want one thing. It does so happen that the one thing most of them do NOT want (in spite of their saying otherwise) is a ‘nice guy’. Nice guys are boring. There’s not a whole lot to talk about. They’re so busy being nice that they look weak. Well adjusted women have a desire for a strong, competent, and take-charge man. A man who takes-charge, not because they think they’re entitled to it, but because they’re a natural leader.
Women often mistake the asshats who are just jerks for what they’re looking for, because the ‘nice guys’ are so damn busy being giant wusses that they never show that they’re a real man. (If they even are...)
I used to be a ‘nice guy’. I went through all the training and indoctrination to be one of those guys who gets ignored. But I figured out early on that being a ‘nice guy’ was getting me the girls I didn’t want and I couldn’t get near the ones I did. So, I corrected.
Does that mean I’m no longer nice? Not at all. But I bring value to the table. I bring ambition, drive, success, knowledge, and experience with me. I am strong in mind and body. And when I want something, I damn well make it known. I don’t sit around and hope someone gives it to me like a ‘nice guy’.
At the end of the day, I still worship the ground my wife walks on, because I love her and she’s my best friend. I knew it the night I met her that she was the one. But if I had been ‘nice’ when that chance came along, I wouldn’t have gotten anywhere with her.