He said it because it is so often true.
As I said in my post #22, too many beautiful women coast on their beauty (until it starts fading in their 30s) and never develop the skill of being enjoyable company, because they didn’t have to in their 20s.
Then later they discover that behavior which would be tolerated in a cute 20 year old, does not get tolerated from a 40 year old.
Give me, rather, an average looking woman who makes an effort at being enjoyable company. Looks fade. Character is what remains.
There’s an understatement.
I knew a woman who was actually a pastor’s wife, who was very beautiful when she was younger and simply could not deal with her looks fading as she aged. She became very reclusive and mentally unstable and was quite the burden to him later on. And from someone who was a professing Christian no less.
Interestingly, I have noticed a tendency that the prettier a girl is, the less well she ages. Some women who were average when younger seem to have kept their looks better and actually make more attractive older women.
That said, people put too much emphasis on a person’s value being their looks, which is a very shallow criteria and one that is very easily lost.
There is a truth in life: An moderately good looking woman who has an attractive personality and genuinely likes the company of men (and not just in the carnal sense) will never lack for a man to have a relationship with.
I remember back in the day, you would go to a party, and there would be a girl surrounded by men. She might not be in the top 30-40 percent of attractive women, but she has an inner attractiveness, an appreciation of men for who they are, and a welcoming smile on her face.
Men would flock to a woman like that as flies to honey.
I recall hearing people (both men and women) speculate on this, and there were a number who thought it was because she was “loose” or “put out”, but as a man, I did not see it that way.
She had a good, pleasant personality, simply liked men, and didn’t make it all about herself.
Some women would be puzzled by it. But some (like my wife) understood that dynamic quite well.
This woman is a good looking woman. If she had even a modicum of genuine appreciation for anything but herself (and an even moderate inner attractiveness) I have no doubt she would be in high demand past a first date. Hell, she probably would get some guy who would woo her like mad after the first date, and might never get back into the dating scene before she got into the long term relationship scene.
And this is even taking into account the probability of genuine likely widespread weirdness of male-female relationships in men due to the deliberate and heavy cultivation of that...weirdness...by society today.
Well, I have known so many women who were abused by men, beaten, drugged and raped, MURDERED, left with kids and no income, left so far in debt they ended up in a women’s shelter with their kids but I wouldn’t make a blanket comment about all men.