Posted on 08/24/2021 4:43:39 PM PDT by Scarpetta
My husband of 20 years got the "vax" in order to travel for work. He was not resistant to the jab. In fact, he gladly took it. He has repeatedly told me I'm foolish for not getting the shot. I am heathly and hale and have weighed my options. I will not take it ... ever.
He told me to not mention the mandatory vaccine being foisted on military personnel in a letter to my son in basic training at Fort Benning. I told him to go eff himself. I can't stay married to a man this weak minded.
I can't believe I am with a man who is telling me to watch what I write to our son. I can't believe he thinks this "vax" is legit. I will dissolve this marriage before I let anyone stick a needle in my body.
You sound really self-centered. Marriage can’t survive without self sacrifice. I’m sorry for you both.
Mr. mm is semi retired and I’m not working but I still cannot believe how busy we are.
It seems like we have more to do that ever, although, at the moment, a lot of that is prepping for whatever is down the road.
For the time being, in the summer, it’s gardening and outside work.
In the winter, it will be indoor maintenance projects for him and quilting for me.
I kind of liked bert, but he got on most people's last nerve.
He got the Bum's Rush after a year or two.
........”Theres no upside for men to get married today”....
True....they can have pretty much anything they want...but that does work both ways.
I wouldn’t have relations with someone pumping out mrna spike proteins. You’ll have the shot anyway.
I suspect you’ve lost respect for him over this. Maybe other things, too. Once respect is gone the marriage is dead.
I don’t know your situation; if you can salvage your life give it a try but not if it will ruin the rest of your life.
Remember that in the will.
Continuing my post—I have a second cousin who inherited a great deal of wealth at a young age.
The woman he chose to marry was even richer than he was—needless to say money was never a problem—and they have been happily married for about fifty years at this point...
That really not the case.
If they have kids, it doesnt matter what her finances are, he will be ordered to pay child support.
Further such a marriage is by historical precedent, doomed to fail. There are hardly any marriages where a woman marries a man with less than her. Women by nature want someone better of than them. This type of marriage where the man is less well off financially takes him out of the provider role and this is why inherently women dont marry this type of man. Theres no security for them herewith him. And they would have little to no respect for him and the marriave is statistically doomed to fail.
Thank you!
I just arrived and missed Humblegunner’s comment before it was removed.
As always, you two are the most entertaining here.
Gosh I’m getting a warm and fuzzy feeling……..
I forgot to mention the traveling, too.
Plus we just moved to NH last year and still have a lot of unpacking and downsizing to do.
This FRasshole has been harassing and insulting FReepers for far too long.
We are fighting for the survival of our Republic, ... while this FRoll is allowed to continue his debasing shtick.
SMH
See my previous post—wealthy people live in a different world—for them money is just one measure of value.
In the case of my wealthy relative he is an art expert with few peers—and she respects that expertise even though she has more money than he does.
But—in any case generalizations just do not work with real people in the real world.
Everyone really is different—and some people are better at making marriages work than others—some people have better communication skills, or street smarts, or perception skills than others. Some people are more flexible than others and can adjust more easily to change.
You can respect people for many things, not just money.
Btw—I would never marry (and did not marry) a woman who thought money was the most important thing in life. For me that is a red flag that could easily lead to divorce.
He's right about that. America's woke, leftist military is becoming an institution corrupted by politics and social engineering. Since they still rely on a large portion of rural, conservative whites, the generals in the DoD and the elites in Washington will become ever-more leftist and politically vigilant.
I just like to read replies and usually pay no attention to the poster - that is until i read a reply where someone is just a complete ass and then usually no surprise, it is him. On the plus side he does not appear active in the early to mid mornings so that is nice.
Also, my wife got the vax and i did not / will not. No bubbles, no troubles although neither of us will try and convince or convert the other as we are both ok with our views and each other’s. As other people said, this issue alone is probably not enough for a divorce unless as mentioned, this was the final straw. Now if my wife told me to eff off during a conversation (and this is with 30 years married) that would piss me off and i would not tolerate being spoken to that way.
Marriage has plenty of upsides for women. If it didnt they wouldnt be getting married or desiring to get married.
It has none today for men. None.
Women marry up in multiple ways. They want a taller guy, they want a better looking guy than they are, and they want a guy who makes more than them.
It lifts their finances because it almost always raises their standard of living. This is true because alimony is so one sided to always go to women, the etremely rare cases of men getting alimony from a woman has women using a new term to describe this, manimony. Remember the “family court” takes into account the standard of living the woman has gotten accustomed to from getting married. Why anyne should expect any gurantee to that standard of living once they file for divorce is insane, they do not even have that guarantee remaining married (for richer or for poorer)...
No upside for guys. Financial rape in divorce. Women filing for divorce over 80% of the time, no need to have any fault reasons, vague terms like irreconciliable differences, so it can be on a whim or for the flimsiest weak reasosn just to get half the guys cash and prizes, and use kids for another round of alimony.
Umm they can lie to you for a very long time and get a couple fo kids out of you and divorce you.
There are guys who are duped. The risk far outweighs the reward.
No upsides exist for men at all today in marriage. None.
Direct advice.
You guys must have some major issues if you are heading to divorce over differing viewpoints on a Covid vaccine .
Both of you need to step back from the issue .
Marriage is worth fighting hard to keep .
There is nothing wrong with you having different views on the Covid vaccine .
What couple doesn’t have differences of opinion on a issue?
Your cautionary points are generally valid, but in the real world there are many exceptions.
Any young man thinking about marriage would do well to consider all the points you raise, and would want to mitigate any potential downsides.
There are many ways to do this—my own preference would be “marrying up” but there are other tools in the toolkit.
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