[Maigrey]

Do you know what it takes to make a conservatorship happen, including removing an elder's freedom by taking away their car keys? I do. I helped have my grandmother put into one, and having her keys taken from her. In a moment of cognition, she agreed. The next day she wanted her keys to go see her sister, not remembering the day before.

To have a conservatorship established takes months, at a minimum. (And she wasn't driving.)

[zek157]

Yes. Have had to do the same and it directly impacted my MILs quality of life. The alternative of doing nothing was to enable her to really hurt herself, or someone else. Wife and I couldn’t bear doing that and we’re proactive.

[zek157]

Last fender bender we wouldn’t repair the car. That was a week after replacing over $1000 in tires because they were ruined hitting curbs.

Had a couple episodes of cops showing up for hit an runs too.

Only thing I can say is we waited too long. Being responsible sucks sometimes and is often hard. I miss her every day.

[matthew fuller]

You can learn a lot by reading the whole article. This applies to very many repliers.