“Hubby says he’s not taking an ass chewing every time they disagree with us.”
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I must say, your story is really horrifying and sad. As I stated earlier, start quoting the Nuremberg Code. Start putting your foot down and quit taking this kind of garbage from your kids!
When did we start coddling our children? We are doing them no favors.
Also, since I’m not one to take any kind of s#it from anyone, most of the time, if any of my kids did that, I would flat out tell them, if they don’t start doing some research and let me make my own choices about my body and my health then they can go F themselves.
I wouldn’t care if my kids were the most staunchest Christians who never cussed. I would absolutely lay my foot down. You want to be in the will, you want a relationship with me? Then you’d better start honoring me as the Bible says. You want to cut your child off from me? You do so at your own peril.
What are people afraid of by taking this from their kids?
We’ve had a few verbal knockdowns with our kids. And with my son with the 4 kids. There was a time when they didn’t speak to us for a year and they lived across the driveway.
We apologized then put the ball in that court. It was tough, but my dil is bat guano crazy. She’s tried to kill herself, she once shoved my son at the top of the stairs and he fell down a few feet.
One time, they were at my house.. and he had fixed breakfast for them. Pancakes, eggs, bacon. She came in pissed, took her plate and threw it on my floor and left the room.
Ahahahahhaa, I don’t think so. I went in the room and said, “GO CLEAN YOUR MESS UP NOW AND DON’T EVER DO THAT IN MY HOUSE AGAIN.”
You will never get the upper hand if you don’t stand up now. Do not let them hold you hostage with their bad attitudes. Do not let them use a grandchild to ever get their way.
“I must say, your story is really horrifying and sad. As I stated earlier, start quoting the Nuremberg Code. Start putting your foot down and quit taking this kind of garbage from your kids!
When did we start coddling our children? We are doing them no favors.”
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This is really a first for us! Our kids are both productive with good jobs. Our son with grandsons in Chicago, has not been out of their neighborhood and have worked from home completely. His in laws do live in near so they have seen them and are getting shots. This is the issue I think. We are not getting anymore than we have. We will talk to them as soon as we cool down and won’t say anything we will regret.
Thanks for being my sounding board!
I agree with you 100%. As long as we’re mentally competent, we must insist that our children understand we will never be equals. The Bible doesn’t say “Honor thy children”. It says “Honor thy father and thy mother.”
Parents and their grown children are all permitted to express an opinion, as well as the consequences of not complying with one’s wishes, but bullying and brow-beating should not be perpetrated or tolerated by any of the parties.