We are lazy and spoiled.....soft as butter
You are correct
1860 Americans were very different than now
Average southern male had martial instincts and was great on a horse and with firearms and a gentleman knew his edged weapons and this was the bulk of younger adult white southern males and its still like that
Yankees barring those exceptions on the frontier were less reflexive fighters by nature and culture but they were hardy immigrants and,¡llama,llll farmers and quick to learn and were by far superior seamen