Posted on 02/10/2019 6:56:27 PM PST by EdnaMode
“Oh, God, another Asian girl/white boy couple,” I groan, dropping my fiancé’s hand.
He hates it when I do this. So do I, really. I know it’s unkind and self-loathing, but every time I see another couple of our racial makeup, a little part of me sinks. We live in San Francisco, so this dip is as common as the hills. In these moments, I wish we were anything else ― that he were my gay best friend or we were startup co-founders, that he were Asian and I were white, that we were exquisitely ambiguous races, or that I could sink like my feelings into the sidewalk, be a little worm, and date whomever I want without considering social perception.
Shame is neither the wisest nor most mature part of oneself, but it still has a voice. “Stop it you guys!” my shame wants to say to these other couples. “Can’t you see the more of us there are, the worse it looks?”
“It” meaning the prevalent trend of Asian women seeming to end up with white men. “It” meaning the perpetuation of Asian fetish.
The first time I heard the term ”Asian fetish,” I was the only Chinese kid in a tiny school. Other students in my class had been pairing up to date since fifth grade, exchanging love notes and making each other Alanis Morissette mixtapes. I waited for my ”Jagged Little Pill” cassette, but nothing came in fifth grade. Or sixth. Or seventh. Or eighth.
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You have a good point.
Hey, dude! I happen to like your wife!
LOL!
Yes, American men are the best!
I know another one just like that........excellent English (and Brazilian Portuguese) but grew up in mainland China - in her 70’s I’d guess...
Um...modelling and acting industries would beg to differ:
Well said FReeper sister!
I’m acutely aware that men aren’t blameless.
We’re named as the problem too often for any man to not notice.
It’s practically been codified into law.
Even you have fallen into the pattern in your assumption that I’m a “fetisher”. Instantly on the offense for a simple attempt to defend men who are largely lumped in with the rest that give us a bad name.
“I presume” that every post I read is a combination of letters arranged by someone’s fingertips as a presentation of an opinion based on experience or conjecture. There are no faces, colors, ages, nor genders.
“I presume” the vast majority of white women are not the afore mentioned “bad eggs”.
I am merely a young white man who’s had the misfortune to meet repeated “bad eggs” and been wronged enough to have an opinion.
Being a national scapegoat and used as a convenience isn’t exactly conducive to looking favorably at native born as marriageable options, no matter the gender.
I do agree, however, that we all have personal anecdotes.
And that they’re useless.
Esther 1:22
He sent dispatches to all parts of the kingdom, to each province in its own script and to each people in their own language, proclaiming that every man should be ruler over his own household, using his native tongue.
I will...
Elsie = MrsElsie + 12
If there was no racism in the world - and there should not be - then the MSM and professional race-baiters like Al Sharpton would have to invent it.
From the article: I rolled my eyes at the luxury white men have to not think about race in their daily lives. I, on the other hand, started obsessing over it. I couldn’t be the girlfriend of someone who had an Asian fetish because that would make me complicit in a pattern that was rooted in violence and colonization.
It is revealing that liberals (who see themselves as the moral elite, and while actually being guilty of real major sins yet they fear being guilty of political incorrectness) see themselves being complicit in such a "mortal sin" but a baker who contracts to provide a $pecial cake for the express purpose of celebrating something that is against his faith (as well as the highest state law at the time) should have no qualms but just do his job.
RP?
These same people while excoriating the evil 'racism' fall all over their virtue signaling self to praise the non-whites. In many cases the right is just as bad as the left in all this racial crap just in a different way. They have been trained well.
Is that you, Elsie?
Nice clean gums.
Agreed.
Republic of the Philippines.
Elsie = MrsElsie + 12
Ummm, no. It’s just a taaaaaad more than that. 😆🤣😂🇵🇭
Ah, so you’re just being the devil’s advocate. Not a fetisher yourself. Sorry for that presumption, but can you really blame me in this thread?
But read the posts: the very fact these guys feel free to openly comment and quip to each other - as if it was a private conversation no less - about white females and yellow as well, indicates just how comfortable they are, thinking they are in a white-male environment (or at least, all male - black guys might also hold these opinions).
It is the same way I feel where I live (all my life, much worse in the last decade). Not only do I feel as a conservative, I better keep my mouth shut, but these commie libs here feel free to constantly glibly bring up politics in such a way that PRESUMES they will be speaking only to their comrades in liberalism. Work is a minefield of discussions openly about how bad Trump is, how we have to have abortion for our daughters, and how evil anyone is who doesn’t like enabling illegals and Moslems (as the college DOES). Even the bosses do it IN OFFICIAL CAPACITY, as if they KNOW they’re safe to talk like libs, because, you know, everyone here is a flaming lib!
So the guys here act - like they are in a bubble of guys only, mostly 100% white, etc.
Love it! :-)
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Republic of the Philippines.
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