Posted on 09/28/2018 10:13:07 AM PDT by Rustybucket
An unpopular read on Ms. Cristine Blasey Ford, and how she dealt with Kavanaugh.
If you have ever (not just you, but anybody) dealt with a person, male or female, that has had life long abuse, life long counseling, you recognize immediately that your dealing with an expert on the subject, they have played the counseling game for so long, that they know the script.
They are experts at evasion. Compound that with the fact that she dedicated her life and career to psychology, and in fact became a teacher and professor in the field, tells the reader important facts about the person who represses this memory for 35+ years.
She is a control freak who thinks nobody knows or can tell her how to fix or deal with her problem, so begins a life long study in healing herself.
Of course, this is doomed to failure, but a compulsive personality will never admit that. They use charm, and wit, victim hood, and deflection like a seasoned pro, to get what they want. Living with a person like this is an untenable situation. You want to help, but nothing you do is good enough, as their value is to remain a victim, to them.
What is gained by dealing with, and resolving a trauma to this kind of person? Nothing.
If that were to happen, it would create a huge hole in their lives that would have to be filled with reality, and actual healing.
An obsessive, compulsive person is also a controlling person. They control the people around them, the narrative, the drama. This is so damaging not just to the person, but to those around them. The result is that they have distant friends. Those who can tolerate being around them for short periods of time, but do not want to be brought into the drama, as most people are not equipped to deal with it on a permanent basis.
Next, add a PHD to the mix, and she becomes an authority on the subject, she knows the patter, she knows the buzz words, she can easily lay low the less educated, and I saw in her testimony hints of disdain, or outright rejection for those who would question her story line.
When confronted with the overwhelming contradicting evidence of those who were supposedly there, she impeached the witnesses, or minimize them, or made convincing reasons why they answered as they did.
What you get to the outsider is a true victim, who deserves your sympathy, with the feeling that something happened to this person, but it seems they have the wrong aggressor. You don’t know why, and feel that somehow your a bad person for feeling that way. It part of their game. And unless you have lived it, you see no defense that would be acceptable to others.
She is a permanent professional victim. I don’t know if she is still married, but I did not see a husband, I have not seen supporting children, and most importantly the friends I have seen talking on YouTube fall right into the category I have described, distant, concerned, but not overly involved.
You cannot win with a person who does not care about winning, her entire support structure, is in large part herself. I would have felt sorry for her plight, except that I know this kind of person, and that would have required me to buy into her drama, been there, done that, and I will never again live thru it again.
As for how Kavanaugh dealt with her personally, he had no other choice but to acknowledge her pain, and use evidence to protect himself. At no point was she, IMO, seeking healing, or an end to her self imposed torment. I feel sorry for her in that regard.
Good post.
Probably unpopular with the Left, but that post of yours seems pretty accurate to me.
Her parents and siblings also seem distant and uninvolved with her for some reason.
This isn’t complicated, she is a nut and a liar!
True that. A PHD who doesn’t know how to google “how to contact a senator.”
You make the case so eloquently. Listening to her, for me the "something's not right" moment was when she self-diagnosed how a victim responds to a trauma, using all of the fancy language.
She cam across to me as someone who refuses to acknowledge consciously that she had a role in whatever happened to her.
You seem to have some experience.
Add this compulsive, victimhood personality to a highly-charged political arena and wolves like Feinstein and Schumer willing to exploit her and squeeze every advantage from this - and you have a recipe for a real shit-show like we saw these past 10 days.
Kavanaugh has life long friends still from childhood. Ford had one friend Keyser who still wouldn’t commit perjury for her. Ford is a pathetic person and evidently people don’t hang around. Any friends now should be very fearful of what lies she will tell about them. RUN!
There’s a great book about divorce called “I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me” which describes this sort of person to a “T”.
Is it just me, or did her halting, emotional, high-pitched, child’s voice seem over-acted and just plain creepy???
Sounds like you have had a personal experience that I (Thank God) have been spared.
Distant?
As far as I can determine they were total no-shows..no video of the family gathered around a podium to support their daughter. No interviews... Hell, Oprah would have paid cash money for their appearence.
For all her ‘education’ and experience there is no justification for her VERY casual and irresponsible processing of ‘facts’
And to expect every listener to be JUST as casual and irresponsible with facts is frankly, an insult
Children do this naturally and routinely... then they grow up and comprehend REALITY
She’s a high functioning whack job but basically a sociopathic lefty political hack.
A hundred years ago she would have been the one to shoot the czar’s children in their heads.
Another post-modern Bolshevik.
Is it the CIA connection?
Good post. IMO. This plays both ways. The Dems have a use for her and she for them. A self feeding mission from both ends. She’s a star and they got their sound bites. Total enabling BS.
Well said...For a person with a PhD she plays the victim most convincingly.
She knows a lot about memory, specifically recovered memory, and has used it to create her own reality. The first test would be, “Can I pass a polygraph?”.
The situation that I just can't get past is she didn't know how she got to the party. Even victims who don't remember the event remember what they did that put them in danger. It's a survival response.
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