Posted on 07/31/2018 9:54:28 AM PDT by Simon Green
Selfish? Totally.
I have one boy. He’s the most special of all special boys and handsome as can be. But he’s autistic.
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All the incidentals and help my friends have, I do not.
All the typical milestones my friends get to enjoy and show off, I do not.
Before I met my husband, I dreamt of a life similar to that of Carrie Bradshaw on Sex and the City. I know — it’s nauseating for me, too — but that’s the time I grew up in.
I wanted to be a writer, living in NYC, in a fabulous apartment, meeting men and falling in love, over and over again.
Well, I found the love part and I'm a writer, so I guess two out of four ain’t bad?
I miss that dream.
What would I be doing differently in that version of myself than the one I’m living now?
Currently, I’m writing this on the couch in a pitch black room so that my son doesn’t wake up or get fidgety. Because once he’s up, he’s up.
I’d like to think I’d be in my queen-sized bed in a large studio, inhaling a breeze from the open window that delivers the flavors of the street vendors and 24-hour food places, as I write my bloody little heart out the day before a deadline. Because if one thing is consistent, it’s that I’m a procrastinator in both scenarios.
But that’s all in another life, one that never formed, and one that will never be.
Can I honestly say I regret having my son? Most days, my answer would be yes.
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That describes 99% of all leftists these days......
Click her name on the blog and read some of her other articles. On February 1 she wrote being a size 22 she was the happiest she had ever been.
She wrote two other article, one about oral sex and one about being asexual and having no desire for a husband she claims to love. Someone needs to take away her keyboard and get her a job sorting parcels or other physical activity.
Oh, puke.
She doesn't regret having a child; she's angry that she has a special needs child.
She must have written this while on the lower loop of her admitted bipolar cycle.
-PJ
She writes really bad clickbait.
I was afraid of going at first. Lots of failures, but the ones we turn to Christ are on fire with the Lord. When they get out, I know they will be good citizens. And good Christians.
Women think their thoughts are so groundbreaking and fresh.
Her article boils down to life is hard, being a mom is hard, kids arent what i thought theyd be, i miss what i could have been if i made different choices, you cant have everything, kids are a burden.
Men have had and known these truths because we have had wives AND children to take care of. We dont piss and moan about it because women and the world do not care about our problems. The world stops spinning for womens problems though.
We told women work wasnt fun, it wasnt secret happy fun time to get away from them. They thought we were fibbing about how bosses were unpleasant and work asked for things that couldnt be done in time or with what we were given. They still believed the grass is greener fallacy. They thought men could have it all, work and family. Men know you cant have it all, if you are being driven for success by your woman, more time needs to go there so less time with family. Women resent it and think you enjoy it more than them, or family. After being the one who tells you you have to climb the ladder and earn more. Never thinks about the trade-off.
They sure found out men werent lying. They wouldnt listen. They thought men were lying or trying to cover something up. Another case of female projection. Because they wanted to believe men had the better hand. Well, we have the worse hand.
And now that they play that worse hand, they want special treatment and special sympathy. sorry, I am all tapped out.
She might do better with a robot.
On the other hand, it is possible her mind will mature, her heart will listen and her soul will stretch.
Everybody finds parenting a learning experience. Everyone finds it daunting when things get difficult. But that's how we become grown-ups rather than lifelong middle-schoolers.
So I take back that snarky thing I said about "She might do better with a robot."
She's a work in progress, like all of us. I wish her well, and expect she will NOT remain stunted, self-centred and whiny. She'll prove capable of growth, growth to the full stature of the person she's intended to be: just like her child.
They were made for each other: and I mean that in a good way.
Exactly my first thought. And what about other family members? How much pain is this selfish act going to cause. The “look at me” is strong in this one.
What the hell was that crap about?
Her son is here NOW and it is what it is. He needs her. This kind of daily indulgence in the what might have been does him and her no good whatsoever.
Raising an autistic child has its challenges but also its rewards, and those rewards are the greatest of all.
If she wanted advice I'd tell her to put on her big girl pants and grow up.
So it is your assertion that since at age 56 I am without a wife and children, that I am by definition a failure?
That's....interesting.
So anyone who never has them hasn't lived Life?
This poor excuse for a mother is a vacuous fool not worth thinking about.
I had an old girlfriend tell me that she made the mistake of having a child out of spite. (Towards me I guess, but I was clearly not the father. If I was the “target”, she really missed the mark.)
Years later she toned down her position.
But I thought to myself, “What a shitty thing to say about your own child.”
Not all human beings are equal. This pathetic excuse of life would be better suited to have been born in a tribe in the Amazon or clan in the Sudan.
Why did you have a child? Why did you get married? Why did you never grow up? Why are you so evil?
I don’t know what it’s like to have an autistic child.
I hope her son never reads this.
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