Posted on 03/06/2018 9:11:58 AM PST by BBell
A video of a Virginia father's unorthodox punishment for his bullying son has gone viral.
Bryan Thornhill shared a Facebook Live video on March 1 showing his 10-year-old son running to school in the rain as punishment after he was kicked off his school bus for three days for bullying another student.
In the video, Thornhill says that he "does not tolerate" and "cannot stand" bullying, and refers to the unusual punishment as "old school, simple parenting." The father of two also claims that since his son has been running the mile trek to school every day, his attitude has vastly improved.
"Ironically, since he's been running to school this week, his behavior's been much better. Teachers have approved of his behavior this week," Thornhill said. He hasn't gotten in trouble this week, where last week, he was just absolutely out of his mind."
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Bull! I walked the mile+ to school every day come rain, snow, or shine. But I hated the big rubber boots! Fifties.
Sure... I was surprised that Family services had not arrested the father for punishing his son by having him run to school and home again for three days.
Personally, I think it’s a novel idea for punishment where exercise is used to give the boy a purpose. He may become in later life the next Roger Bannister. Who knows.
I kept calling rifles a gun, and my dad made me run around the hour for an hour holding myself in one hand and the rifle in another yelling this is my rifle and this is my gun.
Never made that mistake again. I was 13 at this time.
The Ellen Show called and want to book you as a parenting expert. Nough said. Btw, you paid way too much for your house and your neighbors are also a bunch of pansies.
Children generally don't do what is EXpected but what is INspected.
Did he invite his military buddies over for a beer and a laugh?
That little twit Hogg needed a father like this.
You’re part of the problem.
Parenting is now child abuse?
Not all children are the same, and some are more equal than others.
Ultimately if a "child' (up to the absurd age of 26?) commits horrendous crimes the parents usually are the main suspects.
Most mentally healthy adults readily admit that severe parenting prevented them from joining the ranks of the dysfunctional at best or the criminal as the other extreme.
There is never a second chance to get it right.
Parents need the benefit of the doubt, all factors and circumstances taken into account.
Don't ask me my opinion of bureaucratic do-gooders, judges and bureaucrats.
You must not have any kids. And if you ever do, I sure hope it's not in my neighborhood... I speak from experience.
I’ve seen this video taken in the rain. I’ve seen the video when it isn’t raining and the wipers are not running. Something fake here.
I think a lot of guys back then were just allowed to be “athletes” or encouraged to exhaust themselves on the playground.
Teach him to be tactful.
The Pack Dynamic (typical male hierarchy jujitsu) works itself out every time it is attempted. You gotta try/learn to stay away from that.
I was in my 20s before I figured that out. And figuring out HOW is even harder.
Walking to school is abuse?
“My wife walked over a mile to and from school every day from the time she was in kindergarten.”
Well, my mother had to walk 3 miles to school and 3 miles back each day barefoot in knee deep snow when the temperature was a hundred, and it was uphill both ways.
But seriously, when I was 15 she showed us where she lived, farmed, and walked to school. It was a very tough life. we only walked a half mile each way, and we had a sidewalk.
What do you believe is abusive about this?
I’ve been accused of preparing food the kids don’t prefer to eat, making them eat at home rather than taking them to a fast food place, grabbing a kid’s arm to prevent him from jumping out of a moving car, pulling a kid out of bed by his feet when he refused to get up for school, swearing in front of him because I said “crap,” psychological abuse which he couldn’t define to the investigator, and sexual abuse for making the kids bathe. Eight reports of abuse (and counting) so far and all unfounded.
No, but he had told me repeated not to call a rifle a gun. I managed to say gun 3 times in 30 minutes that afternoon. I never made that mistake again.
“Dad should be charged with abuse.”
I’m going to give you a bit more than others just for the sake of argument.
I know “bullies.” I was a small boy in grammar school. When I was 7 I was walking to my parochial school on my own, rain or shine. On the way I had to pass this one house within a block of the school. Deviating meant more than 4 blocks added to my walk; I never deviated. I had this family of boys - 3 of them, ranging in age from what I’d guess to be 14 to 10 - who gave me shit every time they saw me walk by either in the morning or afternoon. They’d throw things at me and the oldest went so far as to chase me down and knock me to the ground. I cannot say with any certainty at all the thoughts I had at the time or what I did to end the attacks, but they ended as suddenly as they began. Conclude what you will, but my memory of childhood was never very strong.
Thus, 4 years later when I was once again targeted by a “bully” my tolerance level was much lower and I was a little bigger. He cornered me after a mere week or so of touch-n-go and I delivered a right cross which didn’t quite connect. I ended up on my back with him on top.
The net result was not what you’d expect: He became my best friend until he committed suicide years later.
I became friends with the family and came to know his mother & father before they passed. My friend was the youngest of 8 children and one of two remaining in the house. Dad was a furniture upholsterer and didn’t have an evil bone in his body. Mom was a hard case - an RN - but never expected more out of anyone than the best they could give. We spent a lot of time together and I relish our camping trips for the memories. My friend simply craved attention and, after we became friends, curiously-abandoned his bullying for the rest of his 26-year life.
While in high school I was one of a student body of over 2000 (our class alone was >500). As a frosh athlete I was now larger than many of the kids in my class, but still a midget compared to many of the black kids which were transported to our school from across town in the name of diversity. Very quickly as a freshman you nail down the cliques and bullies. One such clique revolved around one very, very tall black kid who enjoyed roaming the halls and slamming locker doors shut on students. One day he did the same to me.
Picture a white boy confronting a gaggle of black bullies, standing 5-7 looking up at their ringleader who stood over 6-8.
He never bothered me again. In fact, none of his gaggle ever troubled me either. That bully - the tall one - later went on to retire from a successful career with a west coast NBA team and is a respected philanthropist and community member. Later I ruminated how I graduated without a racist bone in my body; I credit my parents.
Summary: Coddling young boys who act out - regardless the reason - is a pathetic response to a boy who clearly requires structure & discipline. Granted, I concede that everyone knows someone with a “Cinderella” experience (perfect family, perfect life, perfect boy...supposedly), but that is far from mainstream.
Look at the stats for young men these days. I also know abuse, which in my own case neither came from my family nor compromised me as an adult. I was a shy kid, but I overcame that facet of my life.
Your comment truly requires elaboration on your definition of “discipline,” as your vagueness in replies demonstrates an argumentative stance.
Right now, you’re looking quite the fool with your pompous comment against a father doing what needs to be done to raise a man.
Taking away the iPhone or the game console for a week is not discipline. I also know discipline and thank my father to this day for what he later admitted was most painful for him (belt/butt), but 100% necessary at the time and I would recommend the same to our boy if & when he has kids and the need arises.
Oddly enough, the need never arose for him and I couldn’t be more proud of him as a young man facing life’s challenges with a clear non-liberal mindset despite his grandmother and childhood friends.
I’d nominate the Dad for “Father Of the Year”.
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