Posted on 04/26/2017 6:18:53 AM PDT by BJ1
Fast forward to my 38th birthday. I was still single, and the world of dating had changed significantly in the last eight years. Tinder and Bumble, the dominant dating apps, offered countless options for single men and women, but made the experience of dating entirely impersonal.
Dating amounted to small talk with a stranger, who you had briefly interfaced with online because you each thought the other attractive. The small talk was a prelude to hooking up, and there were no expectations even of a text the next day.
It was brutal. And after trying my hand at it, I was no closer to finding the love of my life or starting a family. If I needed statistics to back me up, I had them. In 2014, marriage was on the decline, as was the fertility rate in the United States.
I had one real option left -- and that was to attempt to get pregnant alone.
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I disagree. I know a lot of men who would love to find a woman they could love and build a life with, but they expect the same love and respect in return. Too many young women today are all about the struggle. It’s all about them. They are shallow people. They spend their youth marching, protesting, denigrating “the patriarchy”, bar hopping and hanging out with like minded women and then wonder why in the thirties they’re alone and miserable. There is also the quest for Mr. Perfect to the exclusion of Mr. Good. And finally, I will put some blame on both the men and women here, as my old man used to say, ‘Why buy the cow when the milk is free?’. Feminist have convinced these young women that they can screw like rabbits with no consequences as long as Abortion and birth control are free and available and young horny men have gladly taken advantage of that. In my day if you wanted sex you had to, as Beyoncé says, put a ring on it. It made for a better chance of love and commitment from both people.
Very true! I see there are some people here (with the exception of the bitter divorced guys who’ve come out of the bushes) with common sense. Pajama Boys don’t even want to marry other pajama boys!
You are so right.
I met a females with that attitude. I married a lady who loves me.
Dude. You speak more truth than Al Bundy and he’s my hero. You must be a demi-god.
And just because a girl at 13 menstruates, doesn’t mean her body is prepared for childbirth. That’s pretty Islamic to me.
That caused me to chuckle. I am 63 years old and my wife of over 11 years is 62. We went out to eat the other evening and, on the way home, while sitting at a red light, I reached over and patted her bare knee, running my hand up her thigh until she slapped me lightly.
I told her, "Well, I mean, after all, I did buy you dinner ..."
... and she said straight back to me, "But it doesn't come with desert without costing you extra."
We both broke up, laughing all of the way home.
[And just to reinforce the record, I did get desert later that night ...]
No. Old Cliche. I lived in many towns big and small and there one thing they all have in common. In each of them there is a church where the singles go and the things and drama that go on there.......... well let's just say Hollywood soap opera writers have nothing on them.
Sounds like she’s looking to buy a Kentucky Derby winner or Westminster champion not have a child. I pity this child and have little hope for his/her happiness and emotional stability. Children are not pets. Get a cat or if want more attachment, which I doubt, get a dog.
This is a chart I wish I developed...
My error was marrying someone in the Danger Zone.
But I did try and make it work.
20+ years.
Thankfully no kids.
Don’t be caught riding the carousel and without a chair when the music stops.
I don’t think it is fair to a child to intentionally bring him/her into the world with one parent missing and unknown.
People crave biological identity and they need to know the identity of their fathers (even if they are not involved in their lives).
It would be better if she adopted a child who would otherwise not have a home or a parent at all. At least then you are helping alleviate a problem rather than creating a new one. Plenty of children all over the world who need help and someone to love them and care for them.
If you read over the posts written by some of the men here, you would think all of them are slim guys with a full head of hair who spend their down time reading Proust and Samuel Johnson. Meanwhile,their ex-wives are all fat she-devils. In fact, I’m sure a lot of these guys are slobs in need of a few kicks to the tires. I stand by my post.
That should be “chase the kids,” ;) My parents were youngish, early 20s when they got married. So were one set of grandparents. My grandma was 46 when I was born. Some are becoming parents not much younger. Good thing grandma was young ‘cause I needed lots of chasing.
Some of us still do. I had my sixth baby a week before I turned 39. I’m a different parent than I was in my twenties, hopefully better after years of experience.
...most of us who make it work have a moral compass and know that it is incumbent upon us to make it work.
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Exactly. The “feelings” we have can change on a daily basis.
It is not your love that sustains your marriage; it is your marriage that sustains your love.
Ah and there in lies the problem. Rebuilt and refurbished. If you are marrying someone with the intent of changing who they are, you are doomed to failure. Find someone who matches your wants and be happy. It’s not fair to either person to marry someone who in your mind needs to be rebuilt and refurbished.
Brain development isn't even remotely close to being complete. It's why I'd like to crack the "she looked willing" crowd.
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