In fact, I'm so utterly gullible that I finally had to quit trusting my judgment and discernment and eventually quit dating.
Which is a shame, too, as things are good in my world these days and I'd love to have someone to share it with.
However, as my bank account increases over time, my level of trust in date-able women decreases.
The risk seems too high. My want and gullibility could easily cost half or more of what I have and all of what's left of my heart.
It would be smarter to lease with the option to buy, but that's not quite how it works.
Where can I find a single, intelligent, wholesome, yet attractive, woman without guile? Do they still make that model? Did they ever?
I just don't know, so I'm playing it safe and giving it all up to God.
There are still some good women out there.
If you question your judgment, then ask friends or family for their opinion. They can see far more objectively than others can.
Take note of subtle things about a woman, like how she relates to her family and odd comments she makes about others. They can tell you volumes about someone.
The problem most people run into is that they are so desperate for love that they ignore the warning signs and end up in trouble. You are wise for having the wherewithal to not fall into that.
You are one smart cookie.
My uncle is a triple dipper...he has pensions from the military, the private sector, and social security. He has an annual income of close to 6 figures. He is (currently) unmarried.
He has been married four times. The last one drained his savings accounts before divorcing him. She was Mormon and had lapsed in her “tithes” and basically had to buy her way back into their good graces...with his money.
My uncle is still a softy. His housekeeper got behind on her car payments, so he got her out of the mess and co-signed a loan for a new car. Repeat 3 times! Her current car payment is almost $800 and he is paying it!
The girl that grooms his cat gave him a sob story about an abusive boyfriend so he helped her get her own apartment by co-signing the lease. He is now paying for her apartment as she “isn’t making as much as she used to.”
I have developed a very jaded opinion of women and money. So many are not much better than whores. Very sad.
My dad was the head of his fraternity at a large midwestern campus. He decided that he was going to bag the most beautiful woman in campus and he did, a 6ft statuesque blonde stunner who was the head of her sorority and could have been mistaken for Grace Kelly’s sister.
His family was rich so they married, only to discover that they had nothing in common and had a nasty divorce.
I suppose I can’t complain because otherwise I wouldn’t be here.