I think you should probably see a councilor or pastor about this. Divorce is a serious thing just as relationships are, but there is always going to be more going on then those of us out here in cyber space know.
You’re a wise person.
I’ve been wrong all this time! JK :)
Thank you. That is good advice. :)
They want to go out to breakfast tomorrow.. I want to go to church.
Anyway, thank you!
Sympathies!
Married 26 years, with two kids.
1st...emotions go up and down, with wife, I’ve learned the hard way to (a) keep mouth shut when she is venting because she is usually not expecting me to solve the whatever issue, but rather just releasing stress via venting (even if it stresses me).
(b) when wife is not happy with me, it is usually because I am so busy and tired that I am not in the mood to spend much time with her....not due to lack of love, but due to just being tired....but wives tend to see that as “he doesn’t love me”.
Wives tend to equate “love me” with spending time with her. Which is not a reliable method....if husband getting older and has his own stess (work, money, watching politics, etc), they he has less room for affection and cuddling, sex and words of love. Guys get worn out at times and just need to regain energy via rest and recreation.
If divorce, do it before having kids....with kids, there is no chance of a real separation.
Also think of the kids, what is best for them, short of you being abused, is a loving two parent family. Put the welfare of the kids ahead of your wants and wishes.
Just as you look at him thru your eyes, now look at you, your appearance and your behavior thru his eyes, thru the eyes of a guy.
IMO, women are the cause of 80% of divorces since too many women are like Dr. Jekyl (nice) while dating but turn into Mr. Hyde (nagging, complaining, critical) type wives after they get the ring.
Once a day, say something nice and complimentary (even a “I love you” if you can’t think of anything else).
Love is like a fire, don’t be the one peeing on it.
My wife is a typical A. I was too. To save our relationship, I made myself a B.