Posted on 12/19/2016 11:29:40 PM PST by MoochPooch
It's unthinkable, and it's definitely unspeakable, but women all over the world are coming forward to say it: I regret having my children.
Here's the thing about realising that you shouldn't have had kids," says Laura*, 37, a journalist based in Los Angeles. "You can't take the decision back."
Laura once believed that she wanted to be a mother. She had little direct experience with children—no siblings young enough to need tending to, no babysitting jobs—and when she and her husband decided to start a family, she wondered if she knew enough about what that meant. "I asked some friends if we could get the basics from them and they ran us through the general infant care stuff in maybe 45 minutes," she says. "In retrospect, it was laughably insufficient. I really didn't know what I was in for."
Laura got pregnant easily. But once her son was born, she was overwhelmed and frustrated, prone to lengthy crying jags, and consumed by boredom and dissatisfaction.
Some might call this postpartum depression, but the cloud never lifted. Laura knew there was a different force at work. "The regret hit me when the grandmas went home and my husband went back to the office and I was on my own with him," she says. "I realized that this was my life now—and it was unbearable."
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I doubt highly that the hyper-intellectual types in this article represent all women. They're probably better off not having children. But it is frightening that our society is creating so many of them.
The Lord said...”be fruitful, and multiply.”
The contraceptive mentality triumphant.
What gets me about this is all the families out there that can’t have children and would walk on hot coals to have a child and here you have these horrible women who don’t deserve to be a mother bytchin and moaning about it! It boils down to them being so full of themselves and what they want. I feel sorry for the children.
Its a cop-out to say that its OK if someone who is healthy chooses to not have children, or not enough children - because the problem is the cumulative effect of such selfishness, multiplied many million-fold.
National suicide is the result. Just look at Western Europe, which started importing Mohammedans because of a shrinking labor pool and tax base.
How’s that working out?
This is all a direct result of the Cultural Marxists’ war on civilization. It has been building since the 1960s and now the horrific results are plain to see.
Those who should have children (higher IQ populations) are not.
Those who should not have children (lower IQ populations) are.
The ultimate result of such trends is the end of civilization.
If you ever wondered where cat ladies come from.
Matthew Henry Commentary
2 Tim 3:1-9 Even in gospel times there would be perilous times; on account of persecution from without, still more on account of corruptions within. Men love to gratify their own lusts, more than to please God and do their duty. When every man is eager for what he can get, and anxious to keep what he has, this makes men dangerous to one another. When men do not fear God, they will not regard man. When children are disobedient to their parents, that makes the times perilous. Men are unholy and without the fear of God, because unthankful for the mercies of God. We abuse God's gifts, if we make them the food and fuel of our lusts. Times are perilous also, when parents are without natural affection to children. And when men have no rule over their own spirits, but despise that which is good and to be honoured. God is to be loved above all; but a carnal mind, full of enmity against him, prefers any thing before him, especially carnal pleasure. A form of godliness is very different from the power; from such as are found to be hypocrites, real Christians must withdraw. Such persons have been found within the outward church, in every place, and at all times. There ever have been artful men, who, by pretences and flatteries, creep into the favour and confidence of those who are too easy of belief, ignorant, and fanciful. All must be ever learning to know the Lord; but these follow every new notion, yet never seek the truth as it is in Jesus. Like the Egyptian magicians, these were men of corrupt minds, prejudiced against the truth, and found to be quite without faith. Yet though the spirit of error may be let loose for a time, Satan can deceive the nations and the churches no further, and no longer, than God will permit.
"unloving" is translated in many versions as "without natural affection"...and the root word of that apparently means in regard to their children.
This trend is opposed to the trend of women without kids who wished they had an abortion Ex Lena Dunham.
Wow, I wonder how the child feels KNOWING that mommy wishes he/she was dead or non-existent. Especially touching must be the knowledge is that it would be for their mommies comfort level and having the newest electronic toys.
May God bless the children and change these women’s hearts and minds.
Birth control defeats the purpose, doesn't it -- when the first group is abstaining but the second doesn't give a damn and pops them out.
Isn’t the word wonderful! Amen to your post.
I never got married and had kids and it is an ache in my hart. I believe if you look at theses people you will find very self centered people that don’t want to take responsibility for anything. I believe that children forces responsibility on anyone that has them and it is this responsibility that is being chafed by those that don’t want to be parents.
The point is that it is very abnormal for a mother or a father not to be consumed with love for their child even if it was an unplanned child. These women are mentally ill.
Their ‘regret’ is half the result of society treating children as literally disposable and half the result of them being allowed to whine unchecked. I don’t get to cry about my crappy job, why should they get to cry about having kids in an age where effective contraception is nearly on every street corner? After all I have to have a job and having kids is optional, so where the **** do they think they have a right to snivel?
In a sane world the news sites would not even print their bleatings.
Very astute of you to point this out. Kids sense things regarding how parents and others take care of them. Has got to be very painful feeling that your mom hates you as a child. Maybe hate is too strong a word. Maybe scorns you for being a liability and chore to care for. That scorn will turn the child to hate the mom, which is just as bad.
As for us, we wanted kids, are very happy we had them, we love them and the same goes for our grandchildren. Nothing better than having our grandchildren jump into our arms and their parents arms and hug tightly, they feel the love we have for them and respond likewise. Never considered caring for them as just a chore, but a desired obligation. Some people who are against raising kids, I can't understand.
This is how a false meme is created.
Find a tiny number of dissatisfied mothers, and parade them around as the norm.
If they would look for women who regret *not* having children, they would be deluged by the numbers reporting.
I suspect that a lot of these women who “regret” children would not be happy if they did not have any.
There are people who simply are always unhappy, no matter what.
This is heartbreaking. Marriage for both women and men is a soul stretching event, so is parenting. All these women are saying is that they do not have the depth and breadth of spirit to love someone beyond themselves.
I praise God every day and thank Him for the grace and courage to love beyond myself. The rewards are greater than the sacrifices, but the sacrifices must first be embraced.
It doesn’t even require selflessness, it just requires the ability to love. What is life without that? My sympathies to these shallow people.
I couldn't help wondering if these women themselves had those kind of mothers.
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