My son likes her very much. She likes him very much.
They both are hearing family and friends tell them not to marry so early. She will have a great job with a great future. My son will have a baseline investment income and can work full or part time as the family needs.
He is disorganized and would do well yoked. She seems to enjoy his eccentricities. I am encouraging early marriage. Would like to hear Freeper opinion on early marriage in today's marriage marketplace.
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I don’t think it is a matter of age at all but what is extremely important is that a couple take the time, however long that may be, to really know each other first, and that does NOT mean live together or sleep together. It means get to that person in hisor her daily walk. Get to know the parents, co-workers and others that know them. Know what they have done in their life. And they need to understand what/who they are IS what and who they will be. You get what you buy.
I was 22;she was 21.
40 years later we are still married.
And we courted for 5 years before we married.
They have plenty of time to get married.
Courting is important—you learn a lot about a person that way.
Marriage is too late to learn who the person really is.
Not trying to offend.
There is no upside to marriage for men in the United States marrying an American woman. The downsides are tremendous especially if children are produced.
I suggest you, and him if possible, watch the documentary, Divorce Corp. It is freely available on the internet.
If everything herr was not totally stacked against men, I would say go for it. If people did not use divorce alimony and kids as their entitlement “job” for 18 or more years, it would be a different story.
With all due respect, your own description puts me in the “wait” column.
“My son will have a baseline investment income and can work full or part time as the family needs. He is disorganized and would do well yoked. She seems to enjoy his eccentricities.”
Until a kid comes along, then the enjoyable eccentricities aren’t so cute anymore. This is a young guy who is disorganized, maybe we’ll work, maybe he won’t. His wife will have a job and he’ll at least have passive income.
Prediction: if they marry now, she’s banging her boss or another senior coworker within five years, somebody who makes things happen.
Get the young man up on his feet, out the door, self-sufficient, self-confident.
My oldest daughter married at 22 but she as well as being a wonderful person, has her feet on the ground and is in grad school. Her husband is a generous, loving and devout Catholic and the shared faith gives them strength in day to day travails. They decided to marry and that was that- no one could or would have tried to stop them. They were marrying for all the right reasons and the wedding was wonderful.
My advice, be happy for them. Get to know her. Give them time and let them decide without any nudging.
It is important that they listen to their own gut. Two people may be perfect, but chemistry is huge. Their lives ultimately will be with each other. I think it’s important that if they are truly mature and full grown adult minded, then they should make that decision independently. Give the blessing and not say anymore. Both of them need to feel it out if they are compatible life long. Sometimes the very thing that attracts two people together are the things that drive them apart. It’s important to let time see if they are compatible and the chemistry is more than infatuation before a life time commitment. Just my honest opinion.
Of the people I grew up with or went to college with who married at about your son’s age, the best outcomes have been for those who were either pursuing degrees or had recently received them. That additional education and exosure to other experiences really have made a difference.
Your son and prospective daughter-in-law could certainly get engaged and then take their sweet time getting to know each other even better as they plan the wedding.
My wife and I married at 18. 43 years ago.
Men do not grow up until they are married. We have millions of men that have stayed in puberty with no posterity. They say “why marry, with women handing it out”. Both sexes have bought in to the delay delay.
My advice: Have kids EARLY....none of this “lets learn about eachother for 5-10 years before kids”. Kids keep the marriage together if its healthy. Also, have the kids 12-15 months apart. Christian, white, gun owning, republican couples should have 4-5 kids to help outbreed the liberals and illegals.
They will do just fine-—I wish them well.
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Shia Labeouf has a very strong opinion about this situation.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0
Congratulations (seriously), but relations between the sexes was a totally different place 30-40-50-60-70 years ago.
My advice: wait, at least until after they graduate college (if they are in college..)
-Weather Guy, married at 22 in 1982 and celebrating my 34th wedding anniversary in October....LOLOLOL....
Depends upon how mature they really are..marriage isn’t for wusses
Ah, as my bride told me... They have an opportunity to grow up together. And they have.
It sounds like she gets to be the primary wage-earner, and he’s only expected to provide as needed. That means she runs the family. That’s one strike against.
Also you use the term “yoked”. That’s pretty interesting if you think about it. Would you like to be yoked?
What an attractive turn of phrase. Perhaps branded as well?
It is sort of accurate for what awaits men in modern marriage.
Do him a favor and have him at least google MGTOW to understand the devastating problems that men have when marriages fail, particularly with young kids.
Insist on a pre-nup. Forget about her, you need to protect your SON from the ravages of the wildly anti-mail, libtard feminist courts which can literally DESTROY a young man with out a scintilla of remorse.
Question how long have they been dating seriously?