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Opinions on Early Marriage Please? My Son is Courting a Wonderful Young Woman.
09.09.16 | chickensoup

Posted on 09/09/2016 5:37:46 PM PDT by Chickensoup

My son 21 is courting a wonderful young woman20. She is educated, motivated, traveled, religious, warm, intelligent, thoughtful and attractive.

My son likes her very much. She likes him very much.

They both are hearing family and friends tell them not to marry so early. She will have a great job with a great future. My son will have a baseline investment income and can work full or part time as the family needs.

He is disorganized and would do well yoked. She seems to enjoy his eccentricities. I am encouraging early marriage. Would like to hear Freeper opinion on early marriage in today's marriage marketplace.


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To: Chickensoup

It is important that they listen to their own gut. Two people may be perfect, but chemistry is huge. Their lives ultimately will be with each other. I think it’s important that if they are truly mature and full grown adult minded, then they should make that decision independently. Give the blessing and not say anymore. Both of them need to feel it out if they are compatible life long. Sometimes the very thing that attracts two people together are the things that drive them apart. It’s important to let time see if they are compatible and the chemistry is more than infatuation before a life time commitment. Just my honest opinion.


61 posted on 09/09/2016 5:59:53 PM PDT by HollyB
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To: Chickensoup

Of the people I grew up with or went to college with who married at about your son’s age, the best outcomes have been for those who were either pursuing degrees or had recently received them. That additional education and exosure to other experiences really have made a difference.

Your son and prospective daughter-in-law could certainly get engaged and then take their sweet time getting to know each other even better as they plan the wedding.


62 posted on 09/09/2016 6:01:02 PM PDT by TXBlair (We will not forget Benghazi.)
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To: Chickensoup

My wife and I married at 18. 43 years ago.


63 posted on 09/09/2016 6:02:26 PM PDT by wastoute (Government cannot redistribute wealth. Government can only redistribute poverty.)
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To: ameribbean expat

He is on his feet, works sixty hours a week and is independent. All his toys are paid for and he owns a truck and is saving a downpayment for a house.


64 posted on 09/09/2016 6:02:50 PM PDT by Chickensoup (Leftist totalitarian governments are the biggest killer of citizens in the world.)
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To: Chickensoup

Men do not grow up until they are married. We have millions of men that have stayed in puberty with no posterity. They say “why marry, with women handing it out”. Both sexes have bought in to the delay delay.


65 posted on 09/09/2016 6:03:13 PM PDT by Goreknowshowtocheat
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To: Chickensoup

My advice: Have kids EARLY....none of this “lets learn about eachother for 5-10 years before kids”. Kids keep the marriage together if its healthy. Also, have the kids 12-15 months apart. Christian, white, gun owning, republican couples should have 4-5 kids to help outbreed the liberals and illegals.


66 posted on 09/09/2016 6:03:37 PM PDT by DCBryan1 (No realli, moose bytes can be quite nasti!)
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To: Chickensoup

They will do just fine-—I wish them well.

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67 posted on 09/09/2016 6:03:53 PM PDT by Mears
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To: Chickensoup

Shia Labeouf has a very strong opinion about this situation.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZXsQAXx_ao0


68 posted on 09/09/2016 6:03:55 PM PDT by Jack Hydrazine (Pubbies = national collectivists; Dems = international collectivists; We need a second party!)
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To: Chickensoup
LOL at the "I married at 19 and we've been married 30-40-50-60-70 years" anecdotes.

Congratulations (seriously), but relations between the sexes was a totally different place 30-40-50-60-70 years ago.

My advice: wait, at least until after they graduate college (if they are in college..)

-Weather Guy, married at 22 in 1982 and celebrating my 34th wedding anniversary in October....LOLOLOL....

69 posted on 09/09/2016 6:05:34 PM PDT by WeatherGuy
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To: Chickensoup

Depends upon how mature they really are..marriage isn’t for wusses


70 posted on 09/09/2016 6:05:59 PM PDT by goodnesswins (Hillary & Huma SUPPORT those who support CLITORECTOMIES for little girls...SICKOS)
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To: DCBryan1

They are currently church-searching, and I suspect they will have more than two children from the little I hear them say.


71 posted on 09/09/2016 6:06:09 PM PDT by Chickensoup (Leftist totalitarian governments are the biggest killer of citizens in the world.)
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To: Chickensoup

I’d approve of marriage at or after graduation. That gives them time to discuss kids, plans, expectations, and everything else . . . and to see if there are any problems they didn’t notice yet. Sometimes people are on their best behavior at first, but that’s tough to sustain for two years.


72 posted on 09/09/2016 6:06:42 PM PDT by Pollster1 (Somebody who agrees with me 80% of the time is a friend and ally, not a 20% traitor. - Ronald Reagan)
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To: Chickensoup

Ah, as my bride told me... They have an opportunity to grow up together. And they have.


73 posted on 09/09/2016 6:07:38 PM PDT by aMorePerfectUnion
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To: Chickensoup

It sounds like she gets to be the primary wage-earner, and he’s only expected to provide as needed. That means she runs the family. That’s one strike against.
Also you use the term “yoked”. That’s pretty interesting if you think about it. Would you like to be yoked?


74 posted on 09/09/2016 6:07:54 PM PDT by DesertRhino (Dogs are man's best friend, and moslems hate dogs. Add that up....)
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To: Chickensoup
He is disorganized and would do well yoked

What an attractive turn of phrase. Perhaps branded as well?

It is sort of accurate for what awaits men in modern marriage.

Do him a favor and have him at least google MGTOW to understand the devastating problems that men have when marriages fail, particularly with young kids.

Insist on a pre-nup. Forget about her, you need to protect your SON from the ravages of the wildly anti-mail, libtard feminist courts which can literally DESTROY a young man with out a scintilla of remorse.

75 posted on 09/09/2016 6:08:10 PM PDT by Jack Black (Dispossession is an obliteration of memory, of place, and of identity)
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To: Pollster1

Exactly.


76 posted on 09/09/2016 6:08:22 PM PDT by HollyB
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To: Chickensoup

I was too young to recognize signs he had a drinking problem and porn problem that never improved but only worsened over time. He started treating me worse and worse and wouldn’t go for counseling. Couldn’t take anymore so had to get out.


77 posted on 09/09/2016 6:09:31 PM PDT by CharlotteVRWC
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To: Chickensoup

I was too young to recognize signs he had a drinking problem and porn problem that never improved but only worsened over time. He started treating me worse and worse and wouldn’t go for counseling. Couldn’t take anymore so had to get out.


78 posted on 09/09/2016 6:09:32 PM PDT by CharlotteVRWC
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To: Chickensoup

Question how long have they been dating seriously?


79 posted on 09/09/2016 6:09:48 PM PDT by HollyB
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80 posted on 09/09/2016 6:09:56 PM PDT by Jack Hydrazine (Pubbies = national collectivists; Dems = international collectivists; We need a second party!)
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