The following is so obvious:
“Women traditionally want to be courted, and men still want to propose. Most men are not comfortable being asked.” She added: “Men can feel powerless or rushed. They think, ‘Why isn’t she waiting. I want to do it on my time.’ ”
If the woman asks, she may resent that decision years later, Ms. Velazquez said. “If she jumps the gun, five years down the line that action might backfire. She might say to her husband: ‘Why didn’t you ask me? I don’t have the great story to tell people about how you proposed.’”
What? You mean women might later blame the man? Shocking, I say, shocking!
It’s like this - I’m a guy and have been asked and said no.
Nobody likes to get a no.
My ex gave me the nasty look and growled “What about us?”
I shoulda known better!