Posted on 05/24/2015 2:03:01 PM PDT by nickcarraway
he melee started, it seems, with a meme. The photo was of an innocuous scene, one that many are anticipating this Memorial Day weekend: hamburgers and hot dogs on a grill. It was the caption that set everything off.
It read: “Soooo you are at a barbecue. Your man is hungry. He lets you know he is hungry, but you are not the kind of woman to go around fixing plates for a man, so you ignore him. A random woman hears this and says, ‘I will fix his plate.’ She sashays away and comes back with a plate for your man. Do you have any problems with this?”
The answer should have been simple: Yes, this is a problem. One, why is a hungry, fully functional grown man acting incapable of fixing his own plate? Two, why is he acting like his plate is his woman’s job to tend to? Three, who is this crazy woman who doesn’t know him or me from Adam and Eve, who takes it upon herself to do something as intimate as fix his plate?
Maybe the conversation started off civil, but by the time I stumbled into it, all hell had broken loose. In 2015, social media devolved into a full-fledged debate over whether it was a woman’s duty to fix her man a plate. ... And a surprising number of the answers were “yes.”
Black women’s new mandatory requirements: Stay black. Die. Fix a man’s plate.
(Excerpt) Read more at theroot.com ...
The 3 F’s A Man Needs
http://paigediamond.com/3-fs/
(some salty language here.)
Quote from the article:
“Yes, he’s a grown man who can do it himself, but sometimes he likes his ego stroked—and yeah, when I do it in these circumstances, that’s exactly what fixing his plate is about: his ego.”
There should be four F’s to keeping a man happy:
1) Feed him
2) #### him
3) Flatter him
4) Faithful to him
We’d all jump up to fix Dad’s plate on days mom made fried zucchini or sautéed mushrooms- otherwise he’d fix his own plate and eat them all.
All of this arguing over who fills the guys plate, but not one word about who gets him a friggin beer.
This may be (supposedly) a freer, looser society but it seems people get their panties in a wad over nothing or at least over very little.
Just the other day I was talking to my Puerto Rican housekeeper at the Dry Cleaners and as she was leaving for the market I asked her to go to the hardware store to see what they had for the chink in the fence.
The dry cleaner went ballistic, threw me out and on the way out the door I told the housekeeper to pick up some Spic ‘n Span cleanser and she quit.
I went to the bank and some Japanese guy was trying to exchange yen for greenbacks and I heard him say.
Yesterday you gave me 1 dorrah for 120 yen, today you give 1 dorrah for 135 yen..it isn’t fair. He was flustered and the teller went to get the manager and I said to him.
“Fluctuations. The dollar to yen value fluctuates on a daily basis, that is why the rate changes”
He looked at me and said “Fructuations????? No, FruckyouAmelicans”
At the BBQ joint someone mentioned how the budget was going bad and I just happened to say “All these money handlers are just niggardly”.
Got thrown out of the BBQ joint.
It has definitely been that kind of week
Maybe the problem is, she is not the kind of woman who fixes a man’s plate.
Grown women screan at insect and vermin like if they touchthem it will kill them. And they ask a grown man in the house to come save them.
I think if we just try to get along with eeryone better and not think we’re so above doing things for others, especially those we are supposedly close to, we’d probably be better off.
Amen. A litle less self-importance, a little more getting along. Especialy on the smaller things.
Why?
Because by and large men do the kinds of work around the house the woman does not want/like to do, are messier to do, like garbage and pkumbing, or are harder to do.
At the same time many of these jobs the guy would rather do on his own because he knows how to do them and would rather do them to completion on his own.
So in a lot of ways in many cases, the division tends to work itself out fairly well if they are a good match for each other.
John Galt is all white men, today.
No kidding. I wonder what they think when they go to a Chipotle?
I never thought some guy or gal putting food on a plate was particularly "intimate".
If he asks politely, make his plate. Because you do kind things for each other. If he grunts or demands, to hell with him.
but you are not the kind of woman to go around fixing plates for a man, so you ignore him.
Why wouldn't you fix a plate for him if he asks ... politely? Couples do things for each other ... when treated kindly. If you're the "I ain't stepping and fetching" kind of woman with an attitude, who would want you?
A random woman hears this and says, ‘I will fix his plate.’ She sashays away and comes back with a plate for your man. Do you have any problems with this?”
She needs to butt the hell out. It's not her place to interfere in someone other couple's marital politics or play the suck-up role.
You do not need to fix me a plate.. in fact if you asked i probably say no thank you. but i would thank your for asking..
A random woman hears this and says, ‘I will fix his plate.’ She sashays away and comes back with a plate for your man. Do you have any problems with this?”
This guy is probably a back-to-the-wall, situational awareness guy who is watching for trouble, quietly.
In a relaxed environment, women are better at making a plate as they know where the hidden appetizer gems are and will generally produce a nutritionally balanced plate vs. a man’s instinctive piling on only ham or brisket and potatoes unless he has an epicurean streak, which this guy clearly doesn’t.
He sings to me. I swoon. :D
I couldn't see... was that a comma at the end of that bit, or was it a period?
I like to get things for my guy. If he says he is thirsty or hungry I will get him something. I often am proactive and ask him if there is anything he wants.
He does the same for me.
On the other hand if some strange women started handing him plates of food I would be highly annoyed. I might even become miffed and slightly peeved.
A gentle and genteel warning would be issued.
or...
could it be...
that you made your own ass look bad, and someone else is just letting you know that???
i would have no problem getting a plate for my lady...
she should have no problem getting one for me....
True, dat. I was just kidding. I never mind getting my hubby a plate. ;)
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