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Being a mother and a wife is a full time job in itself. Attempting to go to school to get a 2 year degree while trying to be a mother and a wife is simply a distraction from the more important functions of being a mother and a wife.

Whatever happened to pride in being a mother and a wife? Pride in cooking? Pride in household economics? Pride in educating children?

Getting a degree and competing in the workplace is simply at odds with being a mother and wife.

Being a father and a husband has its own challenges also.

The way I see it, the husband and father buys the house, and the wife and mother makes it a home.

Father, husband, wife, mother - these are all good roles and jobs that have been proven with time. The cultural revolution has diminished their value and attempted to tell us the family structure doesn’t work. That’s false.

If you want to do something, do it well whether it be a mother or an engineer. Doing both is a disservice to the end consumers. The jack of all trades is a master of none.

I was a divorced mom of 2 toddlers, I worked 40 hrs a week in a factory. Sat morning was rummage sales for clothes, and the afternoon for grocery store. My dad kept the boys, and I took mom for her groceries too.

Plus I taught my boys the basic required for school. Drove them to baseball practice and games.

I did all the grass mowing, and putting plastic on the windows in the winter. I could do most any thing in the rental shack. As long as it was not electrical, my dad did that and kept the old used washer and dryer working.

The way I see it, the husband and father buys the house, and the wife and mother makes it a home.

That's the way it is in my household. And, as an E6 in the military, I'm hardly rich.

I work to pay the bills and my wife stays home with our two young sons. She cooks and cleans and still finds time to relax. I cook the boys breakfast on the weekends to give her time to sleep in a little bit.

Funny thing is, I believe we actually save money with her staying at home. Our restaurant bill is almost nil, except for Friday night when I'll order Dominos and once or twice a month I'll take the family to McDonalds. I bring home-cooked leftovers to work.

The media wants us to believe that it's impossible to make it unless both parents are working. This is a lie. We save money on daycare, a second car payment, restaurants, and still have money to get nice things like a decent TV, computers, cable and internet, jewelry, clothes, tools and hobbies. We own a modest home in a solidly middle-class subdivision and drive a 2014 Toyota minivan. One of these days I may buy a used pickup truck, cash out of pocket, but we don't really need it. I tuck away a little into a savings account each month. I use no more than 5% of my credit card limit, mostly just to keep my credit score high.

According to the conventional wisdom, we should be broke but we're not struggling at all.