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Top 10 Turn-Offs for Women
LifeScript ^ | 01/12/2014 | Michelle Smith

Posted on 01/12/2014 11:15:50 AM PST by SeekAndFind

Have you considered turn-offs for women? Or do you tend to instantly like or dislike a man without knowing why? There was a time when women were predominately concerned with making themselves more appealing to the opposite sex. But now that many women prefer to choose instead of being chosen, their preferences demand attention. Here are 10 turn-offs for women of all ages and stages of their relationships.

1. Being Ignored
Being ignored is one of the main things that turn women off. From the first day of a relationship until death, most women expect their partners to be attentive. Most women judge how important they are to their partner, by how much attention they receive when expressing their concerns and opinions or when asking for advice.

When men act as though other things are more important or more interesting, or when they casually dismiss something that is important to a woman, they are setting the tone for a rocky, if not short, relationship. And when men engage in the common ploy of showing interest during the beginning stages of a relationship and allowing it to dwindle as the relationship progresses, they usually find that the woman’s attraction for him takes a similar dive.

2. The Wannabe Big Shot
Women are appalled by men who talk a big game knowing they do not have the means to follow through. Almost every woman has encountered the guy standing at the bar, bragging intentionally-loud so that everyone can hear him. Or even worse, the guy who picks you up in a rented BMW, pretending he is the owner.


Men often convince themselves that all women are after the guys with the biggest and the best of everything. This becomes a motive for those men to paint colorful and fictitious pictures of themselves. But in reality, women find this behavior disgusting, so instead of making themselves attractive, these guys become female turn-offs.

3. Self-Admiration
Some women get dinner and a movie. Other women get dinner and an earful of self-admiration when they go out on a date with a guy. Men who waste women’s time by inviting them on dates so they can spend the evening glorifying themselves are truly a bore.
A woman sitting across the table listening to her date gab about his university GPA, his honors, the sports he played, his stellar performance at work, and his new investment ideas is usually not impressed. She is probably bored to death and hoping never to be sentenced to another date with him.

4. Preoccupation with Sex
Whether it is a first date or a 10-year marriage, women do not want to feel as though sex is all that men want from them.

During the beginning of relationships, most women do not want to hear sexually explicit stories or comments and they do not care to discuss their past performances. This proves true even when women are dressed seductively and, ironically, even if they have had or are willing to have a one-night stand.

In long-term relationships, women don’t want men’s interest to be switched on when they are sexually aroused and switched off after intimacy occurs. Most women want to be caressed, fondled, complimented and otherwise shown affection and intimacy, even when their partners are not seeking sexual gratification.

5. Chauvinism
Despite what women accomplish and contribute to society, there are still men who act as if they are the superior sex. These men have many ways of displaying their attitude. Some, for example, have a belittling title for every woman. The cashier is little lady. The waitress is darling. And the bartender is sweet cheeks.

Other men belittle women’s efforts to perform what they believe to be male tasks. For example, a man may say “this little lady cop pulled me over and had the nerve to write me a ticket.” Whatever the chauvinist behavior, it never fails to be a turn-off for women.

6. Expecting the Woman to Take Care of the Kids
Some men have the misconception that motherhood is something that comes naturally and that women want to devote their lives to child-rearing. On the contrary, many women are as focused on their goals, careers, and social lives as men and they prefer to share family responsibilities.These women do not want to be left home feeding babies and changing diapers while their partners maintain their normal business and social lives. This is one of the female turn-offs that takes a serious toll on a relationship.


7. Paying too Much Attention to Other Women

Men who look at other women, who talk about the physical attributes of other women, or who are too flirtatious are not likely to appeal to women.

It does not matter whether the woman is on TV or lying on a beach virtually naked.

Women like men who are respectful enough to pretend they do not notice. Furthermore, when a man and woman go out and they can barely make their way through a bar or club without the man getting hugs, rubs, waves, and winks, the man is not likely to score points with his date.
8. The Not-So-Courteous Approach
Whistling, using slang, or grabbing a woman’s elbow to get her attention are a few of the many things that turn women off when they are approached by a man. Descent women expect men who are interested in them to approach them thoughtfully and respectfully. Women always prefer a gentleman.

9. Poor Grooming Habits
The appeal of sweaty athletes or grungy musicians proves the magic of television and glossy magazines. In real life, women are not generally attracted to wet bodies or the odors that accompany them. A jogger who runs into the convenience store for a sports drink and expects to get your phone number will probably get disappointed instead.

Beyond basic hygiene, many women are calling for more. Recently a radio talk show’s topic was the double standard of appearance.Most women who called in expressed displeasure and frustration at the fact that men want sleek, gorgeous women, yet they do not take care of themselves. Generally, men with pot bellies, dirty fingernails, and disheveled hair are turn-offs for women.

10. Bad Pick-Up Lines
A sense of humor can be a great thing— when a guy is actually funny. A good pickup line will leave a woman with a lasting impression. But more often, women are exposed to guys who try so hard that they are female turn-offs.

With many women, it is a one-shot deal. Lame pickup lines or bad jokes will erase any opportunity a man may have of getting a date. Other women may let a few bad jokes slide, but when men continue, a woman’s interest tends to diminish.

If your relationship is suffering and you don’t know why, consider these female turn-offs. If your partner is guilty of any of the above-mentioned turn-offs for women and you don’t know how to confront him, perhaps you should leave this article where he will see it.


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To: RoosterRedux
There are many wives who lock their hubbies out.

Those wives are being wicked.

"Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency."

1Cor 7:1-5 KJV

161 posted on 01/13/2014 11:25:41 AM PST by Disambiguator
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To: SeekAndFind

Based on my personal experience and that of my sons:

1. Being Ignored - Crap. Ignore them and they will call/text you to death. Pay attention to them and you are smothering them.

2. The Wannabe Big Shot - Semi-crap. If they find out that you are a manager of a Radio Shack, you are done. Saying that you are an Electronics Consultant for a Fortune 500 Company gets you to date two.

3. Self-Admiration. True - You must talk about them, only them, and allow them to talk about themselves ad nauseum.

4. Preoccupation with Sex. Crap - Updated by my sons, who were raised right. Girls/women of today are highly aggressive sexually and want what they want when they want it. The problem comes when the guy wants some and the girl/woman doesn’t. Suddenly, all he is interested in is sex.

5. Chauvinism - True. Although the definition of “chauvinism” changes from woman to woman and the man has no idea where her line is until he has already crossed it.

6. Expecting the Woman to Take Care of the Kids - Unmitigated Crap. Many, many women not only don’t want to work, they want someone who will earn so much they can do whatever they want, whenever they want. For some that includes being a stay at home mom. Some want to be married to a golden parachute that will financially rescue them from whatever entrepreneurial debacle they get themselves into - be it a consignment boutique, a catering company, the latest multi-level marketing opportunity...

7. Paying too Much Attention to Other Women - Semi-crap. You should never notice another woman when with your woman EXCEPT when they ask your opinion about another woman’s appearance. You can try the “I didn’t even notice her” but a persistent woman will not let you get away with that. Saying that your woman is more attractive is also not accepted, especially if she thinks otherwise. There is no good answer to this situation. It is best to fall to the floor with a fake heart attack or seizure.

8. The Not-So-Courteous Approach - True. Don’t be rude.

9. Poor Grooming Habits - Crap. Women will put up with much, especially if the man is rich, famous or both. Besides, they think, I can always change him.

10. Bad Pick-Up Lines - Mostly Crap. Just walking up and saying “Hi” will get you a cold shoulder from many of today’s women. They expect to be entertained from the get go, so a funny opening line is a must. A line that a woman considers to be not clever or funny is, by definition, a “Bad Pick-Up Line.”


162 posted on 01/13/2014 12:12:57 PM PST by Crusher138 ("Then conquer we must, for our cause it is just")
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To: Disambiguator

Tell me about it.


163 posted on 01/13/2014 1:04:15 PM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: Disambiguator

I don’t really mean “tell me about it”...I should have said “you got that right.”;-)


164 posted on 01/13/2014 1:05:18 PM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: SeekAndFind; Kaslin; Kartographer; Marcella
Top 10 Turn-Offs for Women

4. Preoccupation with Sex

 

I am so not-screwed.

165 posted on 01/13/2014 1:08:02 PM PST by Lazamataz (Early 2009 to 7/21/2013 - RIP my little girl Cathy. You were the best cat ever. You will be missed.)
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To: Crusher138
Bad Pick-Up Lines - Mostly Crap. Just walking up and saying “Hi” will get you a cold shoulder from many of today’s women. They expect to be entertained from the get go, so a funny opening line is a must. A line that a woman considers to be not clever or funny is, by definition, a “Bad Pick-Up Line.”

A friend from college who was very smart vis-a-vis women told me a lesson I have never forgotten.

He said "ultimately, the women control the pickup process. Watch for them to give you a signal and then and only then approach them." The signal might be a demure glance or even a slight smile...something barely noticeable (they require plausible deniability).

The women on this thread might enlighten us on this.

166 posted on 01/13/2014 1:12:24 PM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: SeekAndFind

The truth of the matter is that everything and anything is or can be a Top 10 turnoff for those capricious mindless princesses.


167 posted on 01/13/2014 1:13:14 PM PST by Revolting cat! (Bad things are wrong! Ice cream is delicious!)
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To: RoosterRedux

Awesome.
I am Scot also. McPherson and Stewart clans.


168 posted on 01/13/2014 3:00:53 PM PST by SisterK (behold a pale horse)
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To: Crusher138

Your item #7 made me laugh out loud.


169 posted on 01/13/2014 3:06:16 PM PST by SisterK (behold a pale horse)
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To: RoosterRedux

Is that how guys think? Stop it!
I am a super friendly person (when I am not in recluse mode), and guys read into it way too much - unfortunately I get much unwanted attention.
We are here to do justly, love mercy and walk humbly with our Lord.


170 posted on 01/13/2014 3:23:08 PM PST by SisterK (behold a pale horse)
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To: SisterK
Heheh.

My old friend's point was that women basically control the process. They are choosing fathers for their children.

Men need to listen to the wisdom of women and introduce themselves when bidden to do so by said woman.

It kind of reverses the human experience but this is the way it is done in the bird world.

And my friend was very successful...and so was I following his advice.

Men like to lead when dancing...but women actually lead when choosing the right dance partner.

Charming I would say.

171 posted on 01/13/2014 4:54:49 PM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: SisterK

BTW, most men I know are abject failures at the mating game and are nothing but putty in the hands of the right woman.:-)


172 posted on 01/13/2014 4:58:11 PM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: SisterK

You sound like Scarlet O’Hara.;-)


173 posted on 01/13/2014 4:59:11 PM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: WhistlingPastTheGraveyard

HAHA!!


174 posted on 01/13/2014 5:03:32 PM PST by Osage Orange (I have strong feelings about gun control. If there's a gun around, I want to be controlling it.)
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To: SeekAndFind
I think I learned something....

"Most women want to be caressed, fondled, complimented and otherwise shown affection and intimacy, even when their partners are not seeking sexual gratification."...

Although....it seems sort of weird. I'm always seeking....and I try to always do those things.

I'm so confused.............

175 posted on 01/13/2014 5:06:56 PM PST by Osage Orange (I have strong feelings about gun control. If there's a gun around, I want to be controlling it.)
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To: yefragetuwrabrumuy

Where did you copy that from?


176 posted on 01/13/2014 5:08:03 PM PST by Osage Orange (I have strong feelings about gun control. If there's a gun around, I want to be controlling it.)
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To: gorush

‘Your underwear is $8.95 for a three-pack.’

Has the price gone up?


177 posted on 01/13/2014 5:19:49 PM PST by Delta Dawn (Fluent in two languages: English and cursive.)
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To: RoosterRedux

No. Scarlet O’Hara was just a little bit wicked


178 posted on 01/13/2014 6:07:57 PM PST by SisterK (behold a pale horse)
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To: SisterK
Are you saying that you were very wicked.

I know I was before my rebirth...

I was a very bad boy.

Thx to the Holy Spirit...I am reformed.

179 posted on 01/13/2014 6:28:06 PM PST by RoosterRedux (The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing -- Socrates)
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To: RoosterRedux

Actually, I was being very very generous to Scarlet. She gives pretty women a bad name.

And Thank the Lord that the Holy Spirit has worked on both of us. Don’t know about you, but I could have wrecked.


180 posted on 01/13/2014 6:53:11 PM PST by SisterK (behold a pale horse)
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