Is that how guys think? Stop it!
I am a super friendly person (when I am not in recluse mode), and guys read into it way too much - unfortunately I get much unwanted attention.
We are here to do justly, love mercy and walk humbly with our Lord.
My old friend's point was that women basically control the process. They are choosing fathers for their children.
Men need to listen to the wisdom of women and introduce themselves when bidden to do so by said woman.
It kind of reverses the human experience but this is the way it is done in the bird world.
And my friend was very successful...and so was I following his advice.
Men like to lead when dancing...but women actually lead when choosing the right dance partner.
Charming I would say.
BTW, most men I know are abject failures at the mating game and are nothing but putty in the hands of the right woman.:-)
You sound like Scarlet O’Hara.;-)