Posted on 08/20/2012 4:24:15 AM PDT by rightwingintelligentsia
Prior to World War II and immediately thereafter, most married women in this country worked in their homes raising their children and keeping house. Then during the late 1960s, radical feminists encouraged young women to set aside their traditional family roles as homemakers, helpmates, child nurturers and husband civilizers for something trumpted as much more rewarding.
Women were told that being a stay-at-home mom was nothing more than enslavement perpetrated by their male chauvinist husbands. Forget family life and children. Women could be happy and achieve fulfillment by capably competing with men in the workplace for equal jobs with equal pay.
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What would happen today if most married women remained in the home fulfilling their traditional family roles? Think about how salaries and wages for men would move upward if a shortage of labor prevailed in this country.
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Actually, the divorce statistics show that the standard of living for men goes up and for women goes way down when they divorce. The resentment of men paying child support is a real problem since the women do the child care and are expected to have some sort of (low paying) job and the parent with whom the child(ren) reside(s) always must provide an amount equal and well in excess to the little bit the parent paying child support contributes. So who is the slave?
Rush said that one parent works to pay the living expenses - the other works to pay the taxes.
So get back to work. Millions of folks with EBTs need you to pay for their steak, lobster, beer, soda, cigs, and lottery tickets.
I think that’s a different situation
My teen daughter came to me the other day to share that one of her teen friends has gone wild and is now involved in some terrible activities. This is the 3rd child in a family of 4 to go off the deep end and she could not understand how such nice parents could have almost all their kids go “bad” She is studying biology so she concluded that it must be bad genes. Sadly I know these very nice parents and they are both have very “important” jobs that seem to consume them. It is very hard to share your energy with two competing forces and more and more I see women who decide to give their 110% to their careers.
You are a liar.
You’re falling behind! You’re falling behind! If you’re 28, you should have a 4000 square foot house, a big SUV, a pickup truck, a boat and a cabin on the lake. Damn the children, you’re falling behind.
Add to the "etc" having to get a cleaning service; eating out or using more "easy prepare" foods -- you may find the net contribution is negative.
Spot on, as is the author. As another poster pointed out, the dynamic of a stay-at-home mom, as we remember it, is a relatively new, and almost uniquely American idea. Prior to the late 19th century, women worked as much and as hard as men, as did children, although in an agrarian culture, the wife’s work did consist of more of the “household” chores, but that was due to the work being more suitable to her than farming the fields or operating the mill (not that some did not do that).
If anything, that brief, idyllic period should remind us of what we have given up in the last 60 years as our culture and our government have changed and grown beyond all recognition. Even in some of the posts agreeing with the author, there is just a hint of condecension when referring to those who don’t “plan” correctly.
Pope Paul VI had it right all those years ago. First comes the denial of the obvious differences between men and women, and the attempt to make them the same. Then comes the “planning” of families (forget about God being a partner in your marriage) and then comes abortion as the stop-gap contraception. In a world where the act that was designed for procreation becomes simply another pastime, why wonder that culture has all but fallen apart.
This author’s opinion would not solve all of the problems to which he alluded, although it would alleviate them to some degree, however, it is only another small symptom of the greater breakdown of American society in general.
Speaking as a man married for 30 years to a stay-at-home wife, and observing my two-career friends -- a wife increases her probability of being divorced if her career makes her chronically too tired for sex, and having to both do housework makes both too tired to enjoy each other's company.
Flat truth
My lovely wife works (much) harder than I do - and we’ve been a single income (mine) family since marriage! We chose to sacrifice the luxuries, rather than the children.
Just one dad’s perspective...
Totally agree, but the men that can hack it are few and far between
I gotta say, the state has no business in marriage anyway
I can't believe you think this will ever happen in the US. Never happen.
Women in this country will never go back....besides even in the muslim countries the younger ones are starting to shun their strict religion...just as western younger people have been shunning religion for decades now.
I work out with some 2nd generation muslims and we talk about this all the time. The younger ones love their western freedoms.
“Women going to work has been a SCAM and a COMPLETE SCREWING!”
Agree completely. When I was in high school, my mom fed me the liberal claptrap that staying at home with the kids was unsatisfying and unimportant. When I figured out on my own that staying at home with your kids was the best, sweetest most honorable way to live, that is what I did. However, I never got over the way the “women movement” lied.
LOL I have some vacation this week. I will be back to work and paying for the welfare of PA. :)
I earn many thousands more than my husband. We keep his job because he has excellent medical benefits. Even after generously over-estimating my expenses to work, my net pay is more than 3X minimum wage
If anyone would stay home, it would be him. He has a physically demanding job and isn't as young as he used to be. He's had both knees fixed. If he hurts his back, it could be the end of his working career.
When his body is worn out or too beaten down, my job will sustain the family.
He did a great job a carrying the entire load when I was chronically ill for several years. Now it's my turn.
That's what a marriage is all about; spouses, working together to help the family succeed and provide a safe, comfortable, loving environment for the children.
Let there be no mistake: we have a traditional, biblical marriage. I am proud that my husband is the head of the house. And he is man enough to be proud of me, his industrious wife.
I’ve got news for you man.
When a man and woman get divorced the man is totally screwed anyway.Especially if they have kids.
You might as well throw up your hands and say take what you want-—or else the lawyers will get it all anyway.
The wifely equivalent to this is: "The money you earn is our money, and the money I earn is my money."
< UNPC type=sexist >Stay in shape, wear proper clothes and makeup and not be a bitch. Prevention is always better than the cure. < /UNPC >
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