Posted on 08/02/2012 11:33:54 AM PDT by Sir Napsalot
(snip) ... Similar dating advice can be found in arcane classics like Advice to a Young Wife from an Old Mistress and the more recent Secrets About Men from the Mayflower Madam (who trained her “girls” in deportment and other finishing-school finer points).
Advice like: Don’t act like a slut (in public). Listen. Be gracious and grateful.
And don’t talk too much.
The Jezebels are outraged.
“These writers want us to go back to the ’50s!” they type furiously.
.....
In the July 4 Daily Mail, Sarah Bridge asks, “Are women like me too critical to attract a man?”
Here’s an excerpt:
Single at the age of 39, I’ve often wondered why none of my relationships lasted the distance, but had always put it down to luck and timing ....“Your problem is that you’re really snippy,” he said.
“Snippy?” I asked, not entirely sure what he meant.
“Yes, snippy,” he said. “Abrupt. Critical. If someone says or does something wrong, then you’re onto it straight away. Men will ignore a lot of things if they fancy someone — a weird dress sense, or taking hours getting ready to go out — but they hate being put down or made to feel small. You can be funny, but sometimes it’s way too close for comfort.”
Now, should you read the original piece online, which includes two photos of the writer, you may have other ideas about why Bridge remains unattached.
(Excerpt) Read more at pjmedia.com ...
My personal experience, re-entering the dating game at 40, is those women who have never been married by their late 30s by and large have certain common traits.
Yes, I know you can earn your own money and live your own life, doesn’t bother me a bit, so check the womens’ lib at the door.
What I do find as a general common theme, a basic and fundamental misunderstanding of men, and completely unrealistic expectations. Frankly, most are selfish, not evil, not bad, just selfish, and in ways they don’t recognize. Its not that they don’t neccessarily appreciate someone, or like someone, or even love someone... its just there is too much “ME” in their entire thinking. Not saying ME should not be important, but if you want a relationship you have to be able to adjust that thinking to “US”... and I find most older single, never married women, aren’t able to do that easily.
I suspect this is probably true of most people (men and women) who are late 30s and never been married.... tehy are set in their ways, and never had to concern themselves with much beyond what they want.
Obviously this is a generalization based on personal experience, and not suggesting there are not exceptions to this.
There is a part of the male brain that has evolved to tune-out female harping. It was necessary to keep couples together for the propagation of the species.
I read the accompanying article (The “Am I too critical” one). It is amazing the number of women that seem to think they should be able to be obnoxious and still land a guy.
SnakeDoc
My personal experience, re-entering the dating game at 40, is those women who have never been married by their late 30s by and large have certain common traits.
Yes, I know you can earn your own money and live your own life, doesn’t bother me a bit, so check the womens’ lib at the door.
What I do find as a general common theme, a basic and fundamental misunderstanding of men, and completely unrealistic expectations. Frankly, most are selfish, not evil, not bad, just selfish, and in ways they don’t recognize. Its not that they don’t neccessarily appreciate someone, or like someone, or even love someone... its just there is too much “ME” in their entire thinking. Not saying ME should not be important, but if you want a relationship you have to be able to adjust that thinking to “US”... and I find most older single, never married women, aren’t able to do that easily.
I suspect this is probably true of most people (men and women) who are late 30s and never been married.... tehy are set in their ways, and never had to concern themselves with much beyond what they want.
Obviously this is a generalization based on personal experience, and not suggesting there are not exceptions to this.
the girls I’ve been with are natural disasters.
They generally talk 100mph with gusts up to 160mph.
Other times it’s like Tuesdays with Boring, all the time....
Be interested in others and do interesting things. Otherwise...BoH-Reen!
I don’t hate the UN quite that much...
BTTT
RINO!
Just kidding :)
LOL
I read somewhere that one of the things that women subconsciously rate men on is how much the talk. Women love chatterbox men.
Men think chatterbox men are gay.
LOL
Kate of John and Kate Plus Eight is a shining example of this.
As you said, not just women.. I work out with a guy who is in his late 40's or early 50's, never married. You have described him to a T. He still goes through life like he is a teenager and it all about him. Knew some women who dated him..it's all about him and what he wanted to do.
“Women talking is why God invented white noise.”
And headphones.
That only happens in the movies.
In real life fighting over small stuff just means you spend a lot of time fighting.
The article is about the content of the talk, not the quantity. Everyone should be polite, considerate, and circumspect.
The noce thing about the feminist movement is that you know right away which women have no relationship skills. Women who are know it all blabber mouths vying to be like men should not be allowed near men. They have zero relationship skills and should either become lesbians or nuns.
That’s hilarious!
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