Attraction between Friends of Opposite Sexes
from a social sciense study published in Journal of Social and Personal Relationships.
I'm shocked!
I thought it was just me!;-)
I have worked with all types of women over the years...believe me the ones that look like Ohio State linebackers I do not want to sleep with...
I never thought that about women I worked with, and at my age, I doubt any woman wants to sleep with me. I admit to working with some women who I would have liked to sleep with.
I don’t think I’m that different from the rest of the male population. This study must be crap. Was it taxpayer funded?
This is outrageous!!! How dare they spill the beans and release high security information like that. Traitors.
Very interesting. That certainly never occurred to me when I was employed.
Without reading the details of the original study, I wonder if the researchers made a distinction between “opposite sex friends” and “polite working relationship.” One need not be “friends” with coworkers of either sex in order to work together in a civilized way. I have polite working relationships with men in Scouts and church ministry ... it’s very difficult to believe that any of them thinks a 46-year-old married woman with ten children, including a 6-month-old baby, is interested in sex with them.
And does anyone other than me have a problem with the designation of people in their 20s and 30s as “emerging adults”?
Look at the way business women dress, relative to the way business men dress. Although they may not want to sleep with them, it is clear that women see an advantage to teasing men in the workplace.
“There is NO such thing as a platonic relationship between a man and woman.”
That's not sexism; both men and women succumb; in every such “friendship,” one or both will eventually harbor romantic thoughts...
science
A new study (and several older studies) suggest that.....ONE study proves nothing.
Lots of women flatter themselves with such thoughts.Truth is most are not desirable.
A couple of thoughts here (as a man who has been around):
1. Its true that a [straight] man will imagine what its like to have sexual relations with a female co-worker if she is halfway decent looking and/or nice. For the most part, this is just an involuntary, fleeting though—not something you ponder or act on. It tends not to happen with women who are relatively unattractive, old, or have bad personalities.
2. I seriously doubt that mature men imagine female co-workers have a “secret crush” on them. The exception is if women give real signals to this effect. These signals can range from obvious flirting to less subtle things, like laughing at your banter (even when its not really funny), hanging around for longer than they have to, lingering eye contact, unnecessarily close physical proximity or even offering to pay for things. This last one is a subtle, but surprisingly good indicator—perhaps because woman may not think of it as a signal. Even if you have fleeting sexual thoughts about a woman, most men can tell if ia woman is truely interested or not.
3. The most disingenuous statement in the world is when a woman says to a man: “But....I thought we were just friends.” All women over 18 understand male-female dynamics very well. Women realize how men are wired and can intuitively tell when a man is attracted to them. And they use it for all its worth—especially when a) they are not attracted to us and b) they know we won’t act on it. At the end of the day, when it comes to using sexuality, they are the professionals and we are the amatuers.
I call BS. I don’t want to with any of them, and I am sure they don’t want to with me either.
You’ve worked late nights and even weekends to show your supervisor he can count on you. But your boss hasn’t gotten the message; instead, he’s filed those nights and weekends under “romantic pursuit” and your hard-work as pleas for his attention.
As the current big fish in a small pond, the last thing I want to deal with is a harassment lawsuit because I'm in the position of authority creating a "hostile work environment". Business stays business. It keeps me safer.
They JUST figured this out?!