Posted on 02/24/2012 6:14:16 PM PST by M.K. Borders
Does anyone have a 1-800 number for a help line dedicated to the families of BPD?
My mother was one, so I can tell you there is no treatment or cure. I recommend that you and the other members of your family get therapy to cope with this - you have all my sympathy.
Good Luck and Prayers.
I am sorry to hear this. May I ask what outstanding characteristics she displayed? Very damaging to have a Mother with BPD. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Care to weigh in?
Yep, get out at all costs. As soon as possible.
If you have kids get them out of there unless you want them to be monsters too. It's passes from generation to generation”
I wholeheartedly agree. It will be the hardest thing you ever do but do it NOW. BPD is incurable.
I know you addressed your post to Kabumpo, but thought I’d respond as well since my mother has BPD. In short, she made life hell and always uncertain. She showed no loyalty whatsoever as a mother. She would believe the word of a total stranger over my word, she would call my friends and people I was dating to tell them how horrible I was and to threaten them if they ever saw me again. As a child, when I got injured, she would deny medical treatment and accuse me of lying...only for doctors to later end up putting a cast on me, etc. As an adult, she called my place of employment to badmouth me in an attempt to railroad my career. It never ended until I ended it and cut off contact.
I haven’t had contact with her in years. Believe it or not, I still love her, but I know she is profoundly mentally ill and I can’t have her in my life.
Those with BPD are poison. By nature, they attack the ones they “love” most. In their twisted way of thinking, they can’t stand to lose you, so they f*ck up your entire world thinking that all you’ll have left is them. That’s the meat of BPD.
Wait, let me guess. You get the crap beat out of you, but then when you react or attempt to diffuse or defend yourself YOU get accused of "starting it," "overreacting," or "making a scene."
Been there. They can be men, also.
(202) 456-1414
ask for michelle. she probably has the most experience dealing with various mental disorders
From everything I've read though, I have great difficulty believing that the root of it is "fear," and "low self-esteem." All of the experts say that, but something in my gut keeps saying, "you've never lived here, you don't know." They are true emotional terrorists.
Sure.
Alas, am falling asleep in my chair so it will have to wait until tomorrow.
Otherwise, I’d be more incoherent than usual.
LOL.
Been listening to last night’s Linda Moulton Howe’s C2C reports on the sounds pervading various locales around the world and now a record dolphin stranding.
Wheee.
Night night.
That's the truth! I think the name of this disorder throws people off as well. Logically, they think "Borderline Personality Disorder" means a person is on the "Border" of having a disorder. They don't realize the "Border" means the "Border" between neurosis and psychosis and that afflicted persons experience both.
bump for tomorrow...
No, Barry is Narcissistic Personality Disorder all the way.
Mine wasn’t as terrible as Kgc’s mother. It was more like “you’re so wonderful and perfect” changing without warning to a vicious attack. I came to understand that her praise was as toxic as her criticism, so I stopped telling her anything about my life.
When I was a child I absolutely walked on eggshells because of her mood swings. Anything could set her off.
Mine wasn’t as terrible as Kgc’s mother. It was more like “you’re so wonderful and perfect” changing without warning to a vicious attack. I came to understand that her praise was as toxic as her criticism, so I stopped telling her anything about my life.
When I was a child I absolutely walked on eggshells because of her mood swings. Anything could set her off.
I also appreciate your sharing your knowledge about BPD too. It is helpful to me as someone who came in contact with someone such as this in my professional world.
Unfortunately the BPD person has successfully conned other important colleagues into her mind games and tells them she can't tolerate having me in any group that she is apart of. Sad part is they spinelessly let her have her way. Also they don't seem to see how sick she is.
Ouch my dear a million hugs sent your way. Just as I mentioned to K, you too are so strong to make it through all of this. My mom was also very abusive. Yet in her situation, I don’t know the diagnosis, but I understand the pain and the scars it leaves. We are all strong people to make it through there is nothing quite like having your first caregiver abuse you. To come through to the other side shows great strength.
Ping to self for a neighbor guy of ours. Once they had their baby she has let him hold her 3 or 4 times only. (She’s 6 months+ now). She does let him change the diapers though!
She was beating on him, pots, etc. and he called 9-11. So she kicked him out. Now is going through the divorce. And put a restraining order on HIM!
The gal is nuts - I was wondering if it had something to do with having the baby. She seemed normal enough to me. (They both did).
Well said. Nail on the head right there!
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