I’ve come to understand over the years that’s it something that every girl should be able to look forward to. Not to knock anyone, but I don’t want my last daughter to marry to have serve Ding Dongs or be married in a pasture. I hope she knows she deserves better than that.
Sweetheart, it wasn’t a pasture. It is a farm that we own. Outright. And with an attitude like that, maybe she deserves better than you. Stop thinking about what you want. It is not YOUR day. And going into debt that takes years to pay off to impress your neighbors and idiot friends is kind of stupid. Dontcha think? And you did knock me you bitch.
I think whatever the marrying couple and their parents want/can afford, is their decision. I grew up wanting to be a princess and the only time I was able to have that was my wedding. It was a magical time (and I wasn’t some entitled witch). My husband still jokes that the wedding was all about me and my mom and he was just an after thought. He wasn’t of course, but yeah, his opinions didn’t matter all that much, lol. We were having the wedding we wanted and he was along for the ride.
Now he has four daughters and even he’s looking forward to their weddings since he doesn’t have to be bothered with any of the planning and just enjoy whatever his girls want. He jokes all the time to them that the only people who have any say are them and me.
The marriage is the most important part and I still believe most know that. I know I did and I’m confident my daughters will too.
Weddings are fun. It’s a happy time. Even with all the bullshit that goes with them.
As a bridesmaid, I went along with whatever the bride wanted and knew I could opt out at any time. I didn’t have to accept the honor of being a bridesmaid (except for the time I had to for family...my Mom’s niece, my cousin, bridezilla back in the 80s when I was in college and suffered through her ridiculous demands and nastiness). Sometimes we do stuff for family harmony :)
My husband and I had a great time at our ceremony and at our reception. My parents and close family and friends had a great time. Nothing else matters :)
I’m looking forward to my daughters weddings.