Posted on 06/04/2011 2:23:31 PM PDT by Feline_AIDS
From a very early age, young girls are brainwashed into valuing the wedding over the marriage itself.
Nice rant. I agree with lots of the stuff you said.
The tackiness and silliness annoys me, too. A "Unity Candle?" Where the hell did this silly "tradition" come from? A child that's barely old enough to walk has to carry the rings down the aisle?
Silliness.
I don’t know, my wedding was pretty ‘genuine’, and I might eventually have to spend 50K just to overcome the psychological trauma; it involved a Justice of the Peace, a ‘Sex Instructor’ T-shirt, and a groom who accidentally said ‘awfully’ instead of ‘lawfully’...But hey, we just hit ten years so obviously something went right!
Some brides have to get past their banker for approval.
ML/NJ
4.5 tops the list in my book.
Did you write this?
So you, the author, work at Hooters, but didn’t post a photo.
OK, cruel.
Well, I’m inclined to let the bride choose, within reasonable limits. But then, I’m a man, and I’ve learned to shut up and not to tell women what to do.
But I’ve never heard of a bride hitting up the bridesmaids to help pay for her wedding. I agree, that is very tacky indeed.
The last wedding I had the privilege of being in...and I do call it a privilege...I’m already married and unfortunately divorced...
A ‘country wedding.’ A bride let us choose the bridesmaids dresses...one young bridesmaid insisted we choose something to be worn again later. I corrected her. You will never wear this dress again, so don’t pretend, let’s chose something we like. WE ‘rented’ the most fabulous dresses for the event. It is very nice to know that awful dress I had to buy...isn’t in my closet...and it wasn’t awful.
Food...the reception was at a camp ground with cook out and all....WE decorated the pavilion ourselves! And the pick-up that the bride and groom drove away in....LOL>
We made our own silk flower bouquets...and the bridal shower cake was actually rolled up towels and decorated with silk flowers that would later double for boutonnieres for the men.
Comments made after the bride and groom left...wonderful wedding, you could see their love in who they are today and that will last a lifetime...
The wedding should never be the culmination of your love...
I had the most perfect wedding ever.
One morning the man-of-my-dreams and I decided that, maybe, we should wed. We got dressed and went into town to find out what it took to get married. Not much, in Alexandria, Virginia. We were hitched by noon.
I was knocked down by the meaning of the exchange of vows. It took me by surprise. I wept a little. It changed me.
Twenty years later and we’re still very happy together.
My 11 ridiculously hideous bridesmaid dresses and I agree with you wholeheartedly. Might I suggest a bridesmaid bonfire? A bunch of us got together and burned the most offensive ones...then donated the rest. The marrieds, as I so affectionately call them, have all moved on to the royal baby showers now. Get ready! You thought their wedding days were totally self-absorbed? Just wait until they have babies! Its like they invented giving birth and having kids.
Seriously? Brides ask for this?
Fortunately, I've never stood in a wedding where the couple was asking for money for their honeymoon.
How incredibly tacky.
Goodness, sounds like the person who wrote this is real charming.
Free advice to unmarried men, marry a woman who knows how to cook very well, loves to cook and is experienced. And is not interested in material trappings, but in her husband.
There IS such a thing as a wedding costing less than $3,000 including gown, rings and reception for 80.
It’s called a wonderful wife that insists on doing it herself, and just gets some relatives to do some last minute stove tending the day of.
And you get the same fancy food, or any food, you want. And years later people still will comment on how wonderful the day was.
You forgot my favorite of all: Do NOT make all the attendants practice a dance and then make fools of themselves dancing down the aisle and doing crazy steps to the latest pop tune.
I had 7 days to plan my wedding. We got married on our farm under a dogwood tree that was in bloom. Hubby mowed a path through the soybeans to that tree and I walked there barefoot in a $29.99 cream linen dress I bought the day before. I carried grocerystore purchased cream roses with stems I wrapped in a matching satin ribbon. Our best men were our 2 basset hounds and the minister was 80 years old and met us at the farm with her husband and brother as witnesses.
After the ceremony, I put on my workboots and climbed on the tractor in my dress to bush hog a back field.
Total cost of our wedding counting marriage license, paying the minister, dress, roses- $200.
We didn’t register anywhere. We didn’t take a honeymoon.
I did ask if hubby wanted me to promise to ‘obey’ him. He said no. Our marriage is not ‘til death do us part. It is ‘til we are reunited in heaven.
If you want to have the wedding somewhere else, you pay to get your party there, don't ask friends and family, many of whom can't afford to travel to exotic locals in this economy.
One of my girlfriends is a bridesmaid in an upcoming wedding. She has to pay to get herself to Aruba, as well as pay for the resort they are staying at, her dress, and anything else that comes up.
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