[Twink]

What are her liberal beliefs? How old are both of you?

When I met my husband, he was left-leaning in some areas, and 20+ years later I still tease him about voting for Mondale/Ferraro.

[joejm65]

Can you post a picture of her? That would go a long way in determining the advice I might give you. :-)

[Smokin' Joe]

Just shoot yourself in the foot. It will heal more quickly, scar less, and be far less painful and expensie in the long run.

[DesertRhino]

and if you cant find a conservative girl. This will sound so insane. Go Russian. Its like an American girl from the 50s bro,,, running the vacuum cleaner in heels,, kind, conservative,,love to cook,,really likes feminine things.

But for gods sake, dont take your liberal GF over there. Its a weird trend today for liberal women. You could accidently spread feminism, its like smallpox with the indians.

[Caramelgal]

I think I'm falling in love with a liberal. She's beautiful and has a big heart, but we have conflicting political ideologies. Does anyone have any tips for being in a relationship like that?

First of all, I tend to think that if you were truly in love, you wouldn’t be asking total strangers on the internet for advice. I hope I’m wrong.

Secondly, you say she is beautiful and has a big heart, but what does that really mean to you? What (aside from physical attributes) makes her “beautiful” to you and what does having a big heart mean to you?

Ask yourself if her physical beauty was suddenly removed – let’s say in a horrible accident – would you still love her and why? Can you list any of the reasons? Would she be the same person to you if suddenly she looked different?

I have some good friends and close relatives who differ from me in political and religious beliefs and many of them have “big hearts”. We may politely agree to disagree and sometimes spiritedly and vehemently and occasionally angrily argue with each other, but I know if the chips are down, if I was in a crisis, that these people whom I love and trust, would drop everything to come to my aid and I would do the same for them.

Would you do that for her even if you were angry with her over a political disagreement? Would she do the same for you?

Do you have expectations of changing her? Does she have expectations of changing you? If either is the case then the relationship could be doomed.

I don’t know how old you are or what your experience in love is, but I’m old enough to tell you that even your “sole mate” is not likely to be your exact clone. There will always be differences of POV and learning to work through them is what makes a relationship work in the long term. Sometimes opposites can compliment each other when the relationship is truly based on unconditional love and mutual trust and respect. Having a lot in common helps but does not necessarily guarantee a happy and long term relationship.

[KrisKrinkle]

How does she feel about abortion and firearms?

What happens if she wants an abortion and you don’t want her to have one?

What if she doesn’t want a gun in the house when you do, but you give in to her only to have an intruder bring harm to her or you—or the children? Can you deal with that?

[WorkingClassFilth]

Fuggidaboutit - all you’re really feeling at this juncture in time are hormones. Rational thought, religious values, morals, reasoning processes and critical thought, worldview, historical analysis will all constitute the fabric of a lifetime together - in this case, there will be no agreement between you and a Leftist. The only place where polar opposites fall in love and stay that way is in a figment of Hollywood imagination.

[hoosier hick]

Run like the wind. Liberal/conservative goes to the very core of who you are. It will not end well....

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[JRios1968]

[DesertRhino]

And if her name is Leslie,,,, Lord help you.

[DesertRhino]

Ohhh,,,and fast forward 6 years. You wanna take her to dinner and a movie. Don’t worry buddy, her gay friend (yes, she will have them) will happily babysit your son!

[1rudeboy]

Someone probly covered this already, but it can be done. Her friends will drive you nuts, though, and some won’t be friendly at all . . . they will snipe at you.

[RichInOC]

“Boon, I think I’m in love with a retard!”
“Is he bigger than me?”

—Katy and Boon (Karen Allen and Peter Riegert), “National Lampoon’s Animal House”

[Radix]

She ain’t that good looking, or that bright.

[Lets Be Frank]

Luckily I married a conservative man..not so for his brother and his wife. I really have a hard time being around them knowing their views. Everytime politics come up it builds resentment. They VOTED for this guy that is destroying what made us great. They TRASHED the guy that kept us safe and strong. Usually I just turn around and roll my eyes at their comments (soundbite mentality, no research to support their opinions). I do believe the veil may be lifting ever so slightly from the Obama messiah with these two though.

[Paved Paradise]

You are asking for a life of pain pal, pure pain.

[CaribouCrossing]

I don’t think it is proper for a mature man to marry a child. Every “adult” liberal I have known was nothing more than a bratty child in an adult’s body.

[Godebert]

Can you really ‘love’ someone who has no problem with murdering your children in the womb?

[Osage Orange]

I'd say...it would depend on her degree of brainwash.

Is she mildly Liberal?

Or is she a mind-numbed robot..spouting the Socialist Liberal talking points?

[PzLdr]

Three volleys, and dump her overboard. She may have a big heart. But if she’s a liberal, she has no brains.