Yeah. Last night sitting there, with his two sons from his first marriage, I felt sad for them. They spent most of their teen/adult lives not talking to their dad, based on garbage that their mom had told them. One of them moreso than the other. The eldest has been divorced a couple of times and so I think he realized just how difficult a divorce with kids can be, and understood his dad more than the younger son.
So much angst when their dad was alive, and for what? Their father wasn't conscious or alert at all last night. The youngest, missed a chance to right some wrongs. Some day he may regret that. At some point you have to let go of it and not let it control you. My step dad did everything in his power to care for my mom when she was dying of lung cancer a little over a year ago. If she had said she wanted to see Australia before she died, I believe he would have tried to find some way to get her there. He spent nearly they entire life savings, caring for her.
Anyway, thanks to all of you for you kind words and thoughts. It's hard because it was totally unexpected. :(
Very sorry about your loss. May God be with your family at this time and may you find this diversion tonight a mild comfort!
>>So much angst when their dad was alive, and for what? Their father wasn’t conscious or alert at all last night. The youngest, missed a chance to right some wrongs. Some day he may regret that. At some point you have to let go of it and not let it control you.
Hate/enmity is an expensive emotion — it takes and takes and in the end succeeds in producing nothing.
Prayers for you and your family. I hope everyone can come to terms with decisions which are now irreversible.
I am deeply sorry for your loss.
(((Netizen)))
Netizen, I’m so very sorry about your stepdad. We lost my mom suddenly also, and I agree that the suddenness just makes it that much harder. ((Hugs!))