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Posted on 03/08/2007 2:40:27 PM PST by HairOfTheDog
Welcome to The Hobbit Hole!
Sing hey! for the bath at close of day
That washes the weary mud away!
A loon is he that will not sing:
O! Water Hot is anoble thing!
O! Sweet is the sound of falling rain.
and the brook that leaps from hill to plain;
but better than rain or rippling streams
is Water Hot that smokes and steams.
O! Water cold we may pour at need
down a thirsty throat and be glad indeed;
but better is Beer, if drink we lack,
and Water Hot poured down the back.
O! Water is fair that leaps on high
in a fountain white beneath the sky;
but never did fountain sound so sweet
as splashing Hot Water with my feet!
Would you prefer I throw myself at the feet of the next guy who comes along?
I have a few requirements - not many, really, believe it or not, other than the good Catholic thing - but one big one is that whoever I end up with needs to be someone I feel I can look up to and respect. Not someone who I feel is weaker than me.
And if that someone is someone who is likely to mistake any kindness on my part for deeper feeling, it makes me really nervous.
I think that’s all pretty reasonable, actually.
One more post on the subject, and then I’m done.
First off, I apologize for being so cranky. I’ve been struggling with this subject all week, so it’s kind of on my mind.
Secondly, I’ve actually been pretty darned *happy* with my life lately, which means that I feel a little sore when it seems like folks think of my being single as a huge flaw that needs to be “fixed”. I’m OK with it right now. And I think that’s healthy, fer cryin’ out loud.
Rosie, it’s just hard to talk to you and retain any optimism at all. I don’t know how to give you the optimism you NEED to find somewhere no matter who you meet. I keep trying, and I keep failing, and it’s really tiring.
Ignore those morons on the other threads. The ones that criticize you are the ones posting in their underwear from their Mama's basement. Count on it.
It's okay if you don't like this guy. But don't sell yourself short. You have a helluva lot going for you. You're smart, attractive, personable and you have a bodacious set of friends who care about you and only want the best for you.
All I'm sayin' is that you shouldn't pass up opportunities to socialize just because a guy doesn't fit your perfect requirements. Maybe you'll get to know someone well enough that your requirements won't be as important. Or maybe while you're out you'll meet someone else.
As my dear old Auntie Mame used to say: Live! Live! Live! Life's a banquet and most poor suckers are starving to death!
You’re interpreting a lot of what I’m saying as pessimism when it’s just that I’m not interested in spending time one-on-one with people I don’t really care for.
I don’t see that as a problem.
And, like I said, what I’m trying to say is that I’M OK WITH WHO I AM right now. I don’t need someone to complete me. That’s not pessimism, darn it! And I do at least as much stuff outside the house as I’ve ever done. I plan to do more. If I meet someone who could be more than friends - wonderful! If not...does that make me broken? Or could it just be that not everyone is meant to be married?
If I’m *meant* to meet someone, it’ll happen. And it’s not as though I’ve constantly turned down guys right and left, which is how I feel like you seem to think I’ve always done. I just don’t get the whole idea of *dating* folks who aren’t even possibles. I’d rather spend time with them in a group setting. Call me old-fashioned, and let it go.
It’s fine with me if you don’t like this guy. It’s fine with me if you want to be single. But you brought him here. What were we supposed to do.... shoot him down before you could? It’s my nature to find hope and optimism in things. I tried to do that.
I’m not going to sit here and feel bad for trying to find the bright side of a guy who wants to take you on a date.
You don’t want to be pushed, fine. I won’t push again.
Maybe take in the movie, but if it still feels wierd, just tell him! Or if you truly don't want to go, tell him, then go on a bike ride and don't look back!
I met SirKit at a music liturgy workshop. We were introduced by mutual friends, and it just clicked for us. Maybe something like that will happen for you, maybe not. I'm just proud you're enjoying your bike riding and going on adventures!
Are you planning to make cookies to give as gifts? Or are you planning to make little mixes (cutesey bags with all the ingredients inside) with the cookie cutter attached? That way they can make their own cookies....
Either way makes a nice gift. Just that one involves less cussing (on your part) than the other.
What was up with all the ambulances with flashers on by the store?
I wandered over there to check it out... and the store owner doesn’t know why they were here either. And there was a sheriff. Then they all drove away. Huh.
Sorry about the crankiness on my part too last night.
The cookies would be the gifts.
I think you have a nice healthy attitude. It’s most important to be happy where you are and know what you want. I believe in bad vibes - remember all the times I came in grumbling about Smelly Brian the Stalker Boy? Bad vibes out the wazzoo.
I get what Hair and Corin were saying, that sometimes you need to give someone another try, but you know this guy and we don’t. Does your church have any kind of singles events you could go to? Are there enough singles there that you could talk to some of the other ladies and arrange service days or little social events just to be friends with people?
Aaaah - ok. The most important part of such an endeavor is not the recipe, but using a lot of parchment paper. It’s the secret of perfect cut-out cookies. I’d recommend poking around epicurious or allrecipes.com or christmas-cookies.com to see if there’s something that sounds good. Read the reviews. There are more cookie recipes than there are stars in the sky. Pick one and make a test batch. 4th of July is coming up... you could cut out stars and see how the fam’ likes them - you don’t have to tell them you’re doing market research for Christmas gifts. :)
Thanks, I think this is a “we” project. But I am going to make sure we have the recipe/procedure down before we try this.
Oh - and balancing flavors. If you have a strongly flavored cookie, go with a bland icing and vice versa. MarthaStewart.com has some instructional videos.... fwiw. :)
Figgered.
In general, not talking about anyone in particular, because I'm not pushing anyone in particular anymore, I agree, group activities are a lot less pressure, a lot easier to get to know someone without them being aware they're being sized up... Heck... I met my own hubby in a social group of sorts. :~)
But the world doesn't always happen in the way we dream it. If no group exists, and a movie is too forced, or too much pressure, and you're trying to find ways to make it work instead of reasons to make it ~not~ work, then create a group.... instead of a movie, suggest he come over for a barbecue at your neighbor's house, I'm sure they'd host such an event :~)
But you always have to worry about the moo moo and the sponge rollers...
Moo Moo and the Sponge Rollers would be a good name for a band. ;~)
And they wouldn’t have to buy a bus.
The could just take the house...
Very true :~)
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