Or maybe it's a "girl job" and she shouldn't be asking in the first place?
This "help out around the house" stuff is frequently a code phrase for passive-aggressive manipulative female behavior that has nothing to do with keeping the house clean and everything to do with her reassuring herself that she is still in control of the relationship.
But any scientist who came to that conclusion would have all 82 members of NOW camped outside his office door with pitchforks and torches. ;)
This thread is about to get interesting. (I don't disagree with you, but I'm gonna sit back and watch.)
"she shouldn't be asking in the first place?"
"Shouldn't"? That's an interesting take, that she has no right to open her mouth at all.
That being said, my husband and I avoid that issue completely. We outsource, and the maid service solves the problem of "girl jobs" for us.
I think the problem is that women want to talk about how they "feel" about mopping the kitchen floor as well as everything else under the sun. Way too much flirting with the kind of drama that I don't need in my life. I live alone.
Agreed.
Funny how the men don't seem to object to having "their" chores.
And when the request amounts to "drop whatever you're doing and do this for me even though I could have done it in less time and with less energy than it takes to verbalize this request, and even though it would be easier for me to do it than for you to, and even though I have no idea what you're doing but I'll just assume this trivial request is far more important than whatever petty thing you must be wasting your time on", yes, it's not about asking, it's about establishing and assuring dominance.