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Study:Men Hard-Wired to Ignore Wives
Fox News ^ | February 14, 2007 | Robert Roy Britt

Posted on 02/15/2007 6:34:03 AM PST by woodbutcher1963

When a man fails to help out around the house, his poor performance might be related to a subconscious tendency to resist doing anything his wife wants, a new study suggests.

Men and women are sure to argue about this one. In fact, the man and woman who led the study disagree on the meaning of the results.

Psychologists have long known about "reactance," the tendency to do the exact opposite of what's requested by a loved one or boss.

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The new study aimed to find out whether the phenomenon might occur at a subconscious level.

Participants were asked to name a significant person they perceived as controlling their lives, and another who just wanted them to have fun.

Then they were asked to discern words from jumbled letters on a computer screen while the names of the people they had mentioned were flashed subliminally. The names were flashed too quickly to be registered consciously.

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To: doodad
lol. Mine does that but with family trees. I'm a big city boy. I know who my brothers/sisters are and who the uncle and aunts are, but she seems to have these family trees taht go back 5-6 generations and cover a broad swath of the State of Iowa. She's a country girl at heart.

lol again. It's even worse when she tries to tell me about her dreams. I haven't remembered but 1 dream per decade. She remembers EVERY detail and wants to recount them no matter how wierd or strange they may seem. It goes on and on and on. When I walk out of the room, she gets the message that it's gone on too long. ;)

101 posted on 02/15/2007 8:36:26 AM PST by HeartlandOfAmerica (The Democrat Party: Best friends of America's WORST enemies!)
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To: Red Badger

!Snork!!


102 posted on 02/15/2007 8:38:01 AM PST by MJemison
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To: ziggy_dlo

Then you're still adjusting. You haven't learned to "work together" yet and read each other. That will come, but you both have to remember you're on the same team.


103 posted on 02/15/2007 8:39:14 AM PST by linda_22003
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To: freedomfiter2

You may well be right in some cases. I guess it pays to be an elderly bride; my husband and I were 31 when we got married, and were looking for mature partners.


104 posted on 02/15/2007 8:40:34 AM PST by linda_22003
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To: Mr. Jeeves

Of course.
The guy's behavior is the problem, not the symptom.
Of course.
Like the study in the lead article, the question is "what's wrong with him?".
Of course.
He doesn't have the social tools to deal with it.
Of course.
And that bomb squad technician should just open the box, cut the wires, and defuse the thing already.
Of course.


105 posted on 02/15/2007 8:41:43 AM PST by ctdonath2 (The color blue tastes like the square root of 0?)
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To: linda_22003

You may well be right in some cases. I guess it pays to be an elderly bride; my husband and I were 31 when we got married, and were looking for mature partners.


That may help some, although my mother in law still hasn't gotten over hers and she's 62.


106 posted on 02/15/2007 8:42:37 AM PST by freedomfiter2 (Hunter '08)
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To: AngryJawa

I am trying to find a way to make it work. Seems like my efforts are going unnoticed.


107 posted on 02/15/2007 8:46:29 AM PST by ziggy_dlo (THE LAND OF THE FREE, FOUGHT FOR BY THE BRAVE!!! We Never Forget 9/11.)
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To: HeartlandOfAmerica

Family trees? Iowa? We must be in-laws to each other. Any relations in Toledo for her?


108 posted on 02/15/2007 8:47:04 AM PST by doodad
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To: linda_22003

but we were together for four years before we married.

I would figure it would be getting better, not staying stagnant or becoming worse. One never ending roller coaster.


109 posted on 02/15/2007 8:54:47 AM PST by ziggy_dlo (THE LAND OF THE FREE, FOUGHT FOR BY THE BRAVE!!! We Never Forget 9/11.)
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To: ziggy_dlo

Marriage always changes things to some extent. My husband and I lived together for a little over a year before we married, so in some ways not much changed after the wedding, but it "felt" different. Luckily, it was to a new and stronger level of commitment.

What you've said so far all sounds like it can be worked out, but I'd say you need a third party to help you communicate better with each other. And please don't reproduce until you do - when children are in the picture, the stakes are much higher.


110 posted on 02/15/2007 8:59:25 AM PST by linda_22003
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To: ctdonath2

If he isn't strong enough to stand up to his own wife right from the beginning, she will gradually come to despise him. No woman in history ever loved a man who did everything she told him to.


111 posted on 02/15/2007 9:17:38 AM PST by Mr. Jeeves ("When the government is invasive, the people are wanting." -- Tao Te Ching)
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To: woodbutcher1963

How self-serving.

I don't buy it.


112 posted on 02/15/2007 9:20:46 AM PST by Cincinatus' Wife
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To: Mr. Jeeves
This "help out around the house" stuff is frequently a code phrase for passive-aggressive manipulative female behavior that has nothing to do with keeping the house clean and everything to do with her reassuring herself that she is still in control of the relationship.

BINGO!!!
113 posted on 02/15/2007 9:24:51 AM PST by HOTTIEBOY (Campers laugh at clowns behind closed doors.)
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To: ctdonath2
...I have no idea what you're doing but I'll just assume this trivial request is far more important than whatever petty thing you must be wasting your time on", yes, it's not about asking, it's about establishing and assuring dominance.

You mean like a man who can't seem to manage to find his own stuff and asks his wife to do it for him?

114 posted on 02/15/2007 9:27:54 AM PST by lucysmom
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To: woodbutcher1963
When you get tired of waiting call ...


115 posted on 02/15/2007 9:31:09 AM PST by girlscout
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To: Mr. Jeeves
But if the question is asked as part of a campaign of passive-aggressive manipulation (which is an epidemic among the female victims of American popular culture), she indeed shouldn't be asking in the first place.

BINGO AGAIN!!!

It comes from sitcoms and commercials. One particular sitcom, the wife looked her husband straight in the face and said, "You're an idiot", then smacked him upside the head. They guy lowered his head and cowarded away.
Can you imagine the outcry from feminist groups had the roles been reversed?
116 posted on 02/15/2007 9:35:30 AM PST by HOTTIEBOY (Campers laugh at clowns behind closed doors.)
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To: HOTTIEBOY

If it was "Everybody Loves Raymond", he IS an idiot. (And it's "cowered", not "cowarded").


117 posted on 02/15/2007 9:41:56 AM PST by linda_22003
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To: HeartlandOfAmerica
....having her come back and complain that I'm stupid because I didn't do it the way she wanted...

And you let that happen for twenty years? That would happen once at my house.
If she said I didn't mop the floor right, I would go outside and fill a big bucket of mud and spread it all over the floor. "There, is that better?"
118 posted on 02/15/2007 9:45:39 AM PST by HOTTIEBOY (Campers laugh at clowns behind closed doors.)
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To: HOTTIEBOY

And you've been married how many times (if ever)? ;)


119 posted on 02/15/2007 9:46:50 AM PST by linda_22003
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To: linda_22003

OK feminazi cat woman.

Since you want to butt in, why don't you answer the question. What if the roles were reversed?


120 posted on 02/15/2007 9:57:02 AM PST by HOTTIEBOY (Campers laugh at clowns behind closed doors.)
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