Study:Men Hard-Wired to Ignore Wives

Fox News ^ | February 14, 2007 | Robert Roy Britt

[HeartlandOfAmerica]

lol. Mine does that but with family trees. I'm a big city boy. I know who my brothers/sisters are and who the uncle and aunts are, but she seems to have these family trees taht go back 5-6 generations and cover a broad swath of the State of Iowa. She's a country girl at heart.

lol again. It's even worse when she tries to tell me about her dreams. I haven't remembered but 1 dream per decade. She remembers EVERY detail and wants to recount them no matter how wierd or strange they may seem. It goes on and on and on. When I walk out of the room, she gets the message that it's gone on too long. ;)

[MJemison]

!Snork!!

[linda_22003]

Then you're still adjusting. You haven't learned to "work together" yet and read each other. That will come, but you both have to remember you're on the same team.

[linda_22003]

You may well be right in some cases. I guess it pays to be an elderly bride; my husband and I were 31 when we got married, and were looking for mature partners.

[ctdonath2]

Of course.
The guy's behavior is the problem, not the symptom.
Of course.
Like the study in the lead article, the question is "what's wrong with him?".
Of course.
He doesn't have the social tools to deal with it.
Of course.
And that bomb squad technician should just open the box, cut the wires, and defuse the thing already.
Of course.

[freedomfiter2]

You may well be right in some cases. I guess it pays to be an elderly bride; my husband and I were 31 when we got married, and were looking for mature partners.


That may help some, although my mother in law still hasn't gotten over hers and she's 62.

[ziggy_dlo]

I am trying to find a way to make it work. Seems like my efforts are going unnoticed.

[doodad]

Family trees? Iowa? We must be in-laws to each other. Any relations in Toledo for her?

[ziggy_dlo]

but we were together for four years before we married.

I would figure it would be getting better, not staying stagnant or becoming worse. One never ending roller coaster.

[linda_22003]

Marriage always changes things to some extent. My husband and I lived together for a little over a year before we married, so in some ways not much changed after the wedding, but it "felt" different. Luckily, it was to a new and stronger level of commitment.

What you've said so far all sounds like it can be worked out, but I'd say you need a third party to help you communicate better with each other. And please don't reproduce until you do - when children are in the picture, the stakes are much higher.

[Mr. Jeeves]

If he isn't strong enough to stand up to his own wife right from the beginning, she will gradually come to despise him. No woman in history ever loved a man who did everything she told him to.

[Cincinatus' Wife]

How self-serving.

I don't buy it.

[HOTTIEBOY]

This "help out around the house" stuff is frequently a code phrase for passive-aggressive manipulative female behavior that has nothing to do with keeping the house clean and everything to do with her reassuring herself that she is still in control of the relationship.

BINGO!!!

[lucysmom]

...I have no idea what you're doing but I'll just assume this trivial request is far more important than whatever petty thing you must be wasting your time on", yes, it's not about asking, it's about establishing and assuring dominance.

You mean like a man who can't seem to manage to find his own stuff and asks his wife to do it for him?

[girlscout]

When you get tired of waiting call ...

[HOTTIEBOY]

But if the question is asked as part of a campaign of passive-aggressive manipulation (which is an epidemic among the female victims of American popular culture), she indeed shouldn't be asking in the first place.

BINGO AGAIN!!!

It comes from sitcoms and commercials. One particular sitcom, the wife looked her husband straight in the face and said, "You're an idiot", then smacked him upside the head. They guy lowered his head and cowarded away.
Can you imagine the outcry from feminist groups had the roles been reversed?

[linda_22003]

If it was "Everybody Loves Raymond", he IS an idiot. (And it's "cowered", not "cowarded").

[HOTTIEBOY]

....having her come back and complain that I'm stupid because I didn't do it the way she wanted...

And you let that happen for twenty years? That would happen once at my house.
If she said I didn't mop the floor right, I would go outside and fill a big bucket of mud and spread it all over the floor. "There, is that better?"

[linda_22003]

And you've been married how many times (if ever)? ;)

[HOTTIEBOY]

OK feminazi cat woman.

Since you want to butt in, why don't you answer the question. What if the roles were reversed?