Sara Evans quits "Dancing with the Stars"

AP ^ | October 13, 2006

[ConservativeStatement]

LOS ANGELES - Country singer Sara Evans on Thursday announced she was filing for divorce and quitting the “Dancing With the Stars” television competition.

Evans filed for divorce from Craig Schelske in Williamson County, Tenn., where she lives, according to a statement issued by Allen Brown, her representative at Sony BMG Music Entertainment.

[Suzy Quzy]

Whatever, Hildy. PORNo works for you, I guess. I cannot fathom it.

[Warren_Piece]

C'mon - you have to admit that ashamedof was...shall we say... a little ...er..ENTHUSIASTIC. Not very helpful to the conversation at all. You could almost picture her standing on a rock wall, stringy hair hanging down her mud-coated body and sackcloth garments, sqatting atnd pointing, screaming invectives and throwing spittle at the "sinners".

Isn't is a little more helpful to point out our own weakensses, let others know that God is slowly helping us overcome them, and that there is Hope?

The moral law is what it is, whether we take my approach or shout it out to the rooftops. Every sinner knows he's a sinner; if not he wouldn't need to be told. But we're not going to point anybody to salvation by acting like raving lunatics.

[Suzy Quzy]

I believe divorce is OK when someone commits adultery....PORNO brings a THIRD person into the marriage.

[pollyannaish]

Well...

I'm hesitant to jump in here, because this is such a personal issue for people. I also realize that while I view this through a religious/spiritual lens personally, that lens does not apply to every other person.

But, let me say this in relationship to marriage and pornography...in general. I will let others sort out the whole "sin" issue as an aside.

Let me start with women, since I am one. ;-).

Women as a whole respond emotionally to sex differently than men, there is no doubt. What we end up doing to "cheat on our spouse" if you will, is develop emotional relationships with others, or perhaps complain incessantly to our friends about our spouses, or to withhold sex as a weapon to negotiate more favorable treatment/secure favors. Not one of those things is healthy, and every single one of them creates pain for our spouse.

Men respond to sex physically. As a result, pornography or quick, easy sex and a wandering eye are huge temptations. Men may "cheat on their spouse" by objectifying sex as simply a physical act, and disregarding any pain they may cause their wives. In other words, "It didn't mean anything to me, so it shouldn't mean anything to you." If a woman is simply a servant/prostitute for a man, and is ignored emotionally, he is "cheating on her"...even if he never actually has sex with another person. Not one of those things is healthy, and every single one of them creates pain for a spouse.

The fundamental truth here, is that our roles as husbands and wives is to go out of our way to not cause pain for the person we have promised to love, honor and cherish. Even if it seems crazy to us.

I guess the bottom line is that sexual issues are generally a symptom, rather than a cause, of marital strife. Different people may organize the details of this relationship differently, but in the end, both partner's needs and emotions need to be respected. That is why some women don't worry about pornography, while it is extremely painful for others. And why some men don't mind their wives having platonic male friends, and other's do.

I am not completely sure this post makes sense, because I am trying to avoid a LOT of potholes...But at least it is a start to a more sane debate on the subject.

If that is really what people want to do on this thread.

[John W]

I doubt he actually read the thread.

[Suzy Quzy]

You call you and your wife making love, PORN?? Good grief...that is sick....does your wife know you call that PORNOGRAPHY?? Doubt it.

[Hildy]

You don't really believe a woman posing in a magazine or acting in a movie is the same as bringing a person INTO the marriage. Please tell me I'm misunderstanding you.

[Suzy Quzy]

Thank you.

[Suzy Quzy]

I would be PROUD to be considered a Church lady!!

[Crusher138]

I am against all cheating. But it's primarily men who do.

Anyone have stats on this one? While I would be willing to bet that men have an edge on this one, I wouldn't say "primarily" men cheat.

I know a woman, divorced, who is having relations with three different guys. She has led them to believe that they are all "the one."

One of my best friends set up a hidden camera and caught his wife cheating on him with her (very) personal trainer. After the the divorce he found out that she had messed with about half the men who worked for him!

I could go on and on. My experience is that women cheat a lot. Maybe not more than men, but it isn't what you would call rare, either.

[pollyannaish]

LOL. I actually think I understand what you are saying. Nobody hides the Playboy anymore, instead they hide their NAMBLA membership and Craig's List ads featuring body parts. Shudder.

It has forced thrill-seekers to search for exceptionally hard core material and contributed to the increase in child pornography and other perversions in an effort to maintain the "edge."

[Suzy Quzy]

Who the hell ever said that??? you must have the wrong freeper. I said PORN brought in a Third person....and you turn that into a picture of a clothed woman as PORN??? I don't understand you.

[evets]

[Warren_Piece]

Wow - very well said. If a man know it hurts his wife, and he does it anyway, he is very much "cheating" (and I would say abusing). You have given me much to think about.

[najida]

Hmmmm,
If I as a woman,
walk in a room and see my hubby looking at a nekkid woman on the computer screen....

and it ain't me....

There is a third person in the room, and at that moment, in the marriage.

Ain't logical....it's pure emotional.

The end result is that only one chick will be nekkid for a while, and it won't be me >:>

[Rte66]

Ah, it's a cat "boxing" - I was afraid it was kitty porn on this thread.

Dang, I wanted to come talk about Sara on "Dancing with the Stars." Will do that in another post.

[Hemingway's Ghost]

You could almost picture her standing on a rock wall, stringy hair hanging down her mud-coated body and sackcloth garments, sqatting atnd pointing, screaming invectives and throwing spittle at the "sinners".

Heh heh heh!

[Petronski]

I'm going to start a firestorm here...

No, no firestorm. You're wrong. But there's no firestorm.

[wtc911]

Methinks you protest too much, my friend. I've often found the most hysterical supporters of your position have something to hide, or a hidden agenda.

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Maybe she just got cheated out of residuals.

[Crusher138]

Pornia = the devil

Flunked Greek did you?

Pornia = Fornication

Pornography = Fornication Pictures