If I focus my energy on other things and lose focus on that then it would be left to pure chance that anyone would find me. And the odds are not very good.
If you lose focus on one thing, find something else. Don't focus it all on finding someone because the harder you try the more likely you will fail. This is experience speaking.
Most people in happy, long-lasting relationships that I talk to weren't searching for a relationship when they met. They just met when it was the last thing on their mind.
Well, first and foremost you must leave the house to meet girls, or meet some online in a local chatrooms, or something like match.com or e-harmony.com. I know it sounds kinda gay, but it does work.