It ain't God that brought him and a homewrecker together.
Oh, prayers for you. I know how deeply this hurts.
You are not alone. You have many here, me included, who have gone through such a hell and survived. Do not be afraid, God is still God even when all others fail us. He does not fail us, and you will come through this with the knowledge that you are truly loved.
I am praying for you right now...
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I cant think of anything more painful.
Prayers for you and yours.
MM
(Bitter?? Who me??)
L
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hsmomx3, My prayers going up for you and your children. God's loving embrace, peace and comfort for your children and you.
Blessings,
trussell
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I am sorry to hear of your troubles and am praying for you and the whole family!
kenth, thank you for the ping...hsmom, you have FRmail, OK?
Dear hsmomx3,
My heart is so filled with sorrow for you and your children. I don't want to give you any "advice" right now, as it is late-night and I'm not clear-headed. My emotions would tell you one thing, but those who know Christ have a greater Ally than our emotions.
hsmomx3, if I had any word for you this late hour, it would be this -- find a small group of believers to confidentially share this with. It likely will not be your own church because churches can gossip about their own. Find a Godly pastor in another church, preferably one who has been around the block a few times, and prayerfully seek prayer support and advice. (You may even find a Christian divorce attorney this way -- to find a believing lawyer go look in the churches.)
hsmomx3, another thing that comes to mind. Be careful to keep the lines of communication open with your children. They are feeling this as much as you are. Encourage them to talk about their feeling with you, and let them know that you are there for them. Be sure that they are plugged into church and the Lord, as this kind of assault on them can scar. Help them to come to know the Lord as a True Father, far different than their earthly father.
I am so sorry this has happened, and I grieve for you. So many wives have gone through this, and are going through it now. Find other believers who you can trust with your feelings and let them share the prayer burden. You are not alone, for the Lord will never leave you or forsake you.
God loves you and He knows how to rescue you. Trust Him, and He will guide you.
On a completely practical note, please be very careful. He doesn't sound particularly stable.
Prayers for you and your children.
In about the same situation myself. You sound just like I do. Unsure of yourself, sadness over the loss for you and your children, fear of "going it alone", You go ahead and work through the stages of grief that this will bring hsmomx3, but lawyer up, and now!
Prayers up here for you and your children, hsmomx3. I pray for wisdom for you, for clearness of mind, for guidance, and also for God's protection over you and your children spiritually, emotionally, physically - in every way. I also pray for your husband that he will come to his senses and choose to do what is right. And I pray for his mistress that she, too, would be convicted of her wrongdoing and repent.
My heart aches for you, and I pray that God will give you truckloads of grace for today and each day ahead. Just remember, one day at a time. You can't make all the decisions at once. Just what needs to be made today. Part of the difficulty is the uncertainty. Place it in God's hands to carry it for you.
I just had this fight with my son. I begged him to get a lawyer and he almost lost his kids because he didn't believe he needed one. I'm just breathing a sigh of relief that he did get one in time.
I've only breezed through most of the posts, but did not hsee the question. Do you still LOVE your husband?
For better or worse, this is one of the worst times, right? men do not have the same emotional quotient of women, there are lines to read between.
If you still love, and want him, there is a solution.
I would also suggest seeing your pastor. If, as might happen, your pastor somehow condones your husband's actions, find another church.
Get a lawyer with integrity. Ask people you know for recommendations. If he's not Christian, you can pray for him. Tell the lawyer you still hope to save your marriage, but ask how to protect yourself in light of your husband's actions, and the possibility that he will divorce you.
You need a lawyer to protect your financial interests, and most importantly, your children's financial interests and the roof over their heads. It sounds like you might lose your home if your husband doesn't pay the mortgage.
You might try a for legal separation, with support, and your husband out of the house. It is possible a judicial order might snap some sense into him.
If your husband doesn't have his own business, why hasn't he been fired? If he does have his own business, that's another asset that needs protecting.
You have my sympathy and prayers.
I am sorry I don't know of any attorneys since I'm in Ohio but please accept my heartfelt prayers for your strength in this situation.
As others have said, God has nothing to do with this situation insofar as people are acting on their own fleshly desires. God hates divorce. That is a fact. However, he also forgives.
Blessings.
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A lot of good advice on this thread, I can't add to it except to bump this thread and say that you are in my prayers. Hang in there, dear.