Posted on 01/22/2006 9:30:38 PM PST by hsmomx3
It ain't God that brought him and a homewrecker together.
I know.
He would have never dreamt of doing this a few years ago. If you saw this woman, an office manager for a pediatricians office, you would freak out. Think of our gov. Janet Napolitano but with spiked red hair.
I was devastated. Found out the end of August but it still continues.
And he is going in to work at noon, just in time to go on her lunch hour which is to the park, then back for a little while, out again for his lunch hour around 3, then he is off at 5 where they hang out in his office until 10PM!!!
And if you saw the cellphone records, it looks like a disease as he calls her every two minutes and then checks his voicemails, followed by calls to her. From midnight Friday night to now, he has made over 15 calls to her.
I have always stayed home to homeschool the kids and he wants me to get a fulltime job. I told him I would not get any job until he breaks it off with her to which he said no.
Did she know he was married? I went out with someone who turned out to be married. What a liar but I was not paying attention to the signs like the shuking and jive talking of a married man up to no good. If you can afford to, DUMP HIS AZZZZZZ like a hot potato. He has no intention of leaving his new shackup. Dust your sandals off and move on. I do know that there are lots of divorce lawyers here in NY, so much that you can get one for a hundred dollars.
Oh yes she knew.
After I found out about the affair i left her a voicemail telling her to cut it off because my kids were devastate. she has no intentions of doing this.
he does not make enough money as it is but he refuses to get a better paying job. with his skills he can get a better job.
Oh, prayers for you. I know how deeply this hurts.
You are not alone. You have many here, me included, who have gone through such a hell and survived. Do not be afraid, God is still God even when all others fail us. He does not fail us, and you will come through this with the knowledge that you are truly loved.
I am praying for you right now...
prayer and wisdom ping
I cant think of anything more painful.
Prayers for you and yours.
MM
(Bitter?? Who me??)
L
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hsmomx3, My prayers going up for you and your children. God's loving embrace, peace and comfort for your children and you.
Blessings,
trussell
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I am sorry to hear of your troubles and am praying for you and the whole family!
thanks for your prayers
i am devstated tonight as he says i have to get a job. i told him no.
he says he lied when he told me he loved me last which was in october
i threw his clothes at him and said to leave. he refuses and said i should leave
funny--if he loves her so much why does he not leave
he says divorce is inevitable and i told him i will not divorce him but if he files i will take him to the cleaners with regard to child visitation ,etc.
we are in debt due to our house mortgage and he says he is tired of providing for everyone
i asked how he can look at himself in the mirror everyday and he said he is proud of it
he thinks i am mentally ill
I know and I still believe in my marriage and I do not want a divorce. I still love him and know he is blinded by the devil.
kenth, thank you for the ping...hsmom, you have FRmail, OK?
But, you need to face up to some facts.
One of those is that it doesn't really matter if you believe in your marriage. What matters is if your spouse still believes in your marriage. You can believe in it all you want and if your spouse doesn't all the believing in the world won't make a difference.
If you really need a divorce, you don't want to hire a lawyer who tries to bring Christ into the deal. You'll get your head handed to you on a plate. You want the nastiest, meanest, most low down piece of trash with a suit and a law license you can find.
Trust me. You can ask God for forgiveness later. But if you need a divorce lawyer you'll be looking for one a long, long, long time if you wait to find one that St. Peter will let through the Pearly Gates.
There may be a divorce lawyer or two in Heaven, but I bet you'd be hard pressed to find more than that.
Good luck.
L
Dear hsmomx3,
My heart is so filled with sorrow for you and your children. I don't want to give you any "advice" right now, as it is late-night and I'm not clear-headed. My emotions would tell you one thing, but those who know Christ have a greater Ally than our emotions.
hsmomx3, if I had any word for you this late hour, it would be this -- find a small group of believers to confidentially share this with. It likely will not be your own church because churches can gossip about their own. Find a Godly pastor in another church, preferably one who has been around the block a few times, and prayerfully seek prayer support and advice. (You may even find a Christian divorce attorney this way -- to find a believing lawyer go look in the churches.)
hsmomx3, another thing that comes to mind. Be careful to keep the lines of communication open with your children. They are feeling this as much as you are. Encourage them to talk about their feeling with you, and let them know that you are there for them. Be sure that they are plugged into church and the Lord, as this kind of assault on them can scar. Help them to come to know the Lord as a True Father, far different than their earthly father.
I am so sorry this has happened, and I grieve for you. So many wives have gone through this, and are going through it now. Find other believers who you can trust with your feelings and let them share the prayer burden. You are not alone, for the Lord will never leave you or forsake you.
God loves you and He knows how to rescue you. Trust Him, and He will guide you.
He'll make you mentally ill.
Pull yourself together and do not let yourself become a victim.
Take charge and see a lawyer ASAP. You have children to protect and care for. He's financially responsible for you and them.
Once the ditz realizes THAT, she might not want him and by that time, you mght not want him either.
Excellent advice Pastor.
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