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I know.

He would have never dreamt of doing this a few years ago. If you saw this woman, an office manager for a pediatricians office, you would freak out. Think of our gov. Janet Napolitano but with spiked red hair.

I was devastated. Found out the end of August but it still continues.

And he is going in to work at noon, just in time to go on her lunch hour which is to the park, then back for a little while, out again for his lunch hour around 3, then he is off at 5 where they hang out in his office until 10PM!!!

And if you saw the cellphone records, it looks like a disease as he calls her every two minutes and then checks his voicemails, followed by calls to her. From midnight Friday night to now, he has made over 15 calls to her.

I have always stayed home to homeschool the kids and he wants me to get a fulltime job. I told him I would not get any job until he breaks it off with her to which he said no.

Did she know he was married? I went out with someone who turned out to be married. What a liar but I was not paying attention to the signs like the shuking and jive talking of a married man up to no good. If you can afford to, DUMP HIS AZZZZZZ like a hot potato. He has no intention of leaving his new shackup. Dust your sandals off and move on. I do know that there are lots of divorce lawyers here in NY, so much that you can get one for a hundred dollars.

hsmomx3,

This is very saddening news! We also homeschool, and I would encourage you to continue standing for being at home with the children (BTW, I'm a guy - my wife stays home).

You received advice about seeking counsel from another church. I highly disagree with this and don't believe that it is biblical (assuming that you're a member of a Christian church).

Your role as wife/mother is to be a Proverbs 31 woman and submit to your husband - however, your husband is in unrepentent sin and therefore you need to go a step up on the ladder - to your pastor and elders of your church.

When you became a member of your church you entered a covenantal relationship; therefore, it is the JOB of your pastors and elders to counsel you and your husband through this situation.

If your husband continues to be unrepentent then you are completely, biblically justified to seek a divorce. There are not many cases for divorce - but this is one of them.

We'll keep you and your family in our prayers as you move forward. Keep us posted. You're not alone...

politicket

Think of our gov. Janet Napolitano but with spiked red hair.

The hussy.

But seriesly:

Be careful of what you publicly post about this here. If he knows your FR name, he might later try to use information turned up here against you in court.
Hard as it may be to do, I'd suggest not continuing to beat up on yourself by constantly checking up on his movements (leave that for your lawyer). You know he's having an affair -- why continue to pick at that scab by reconfirming it?

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