[martin_fierro]

Think of our gov. Janet Napolitano but with spiked red hair.

The hussy.

But seriesly:

• Be careful of what you publicly post about this here. If he knows your FR name, he might later try to use information turned up here against you in court.
• Hard as it may be to do, I'd suggest not continuing to beat up on yourself by constantly checking up on his movements (leave that for your lawyer). You know he's having an affair -- why continue to pick at that scab by reconfirming it?

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[Fierce Allegiance]

Ipecac for the eyes!

[xsmommy]

and do not move out of the house. if he wants to go, let him go. but you and your kids should stay right there and you do need to find a lawyer. a Christian lawyer would be excellent, but it is more important that you find an experienced and hard-nosed one. do not let him denigrate you, he is the wrong-doer here, obviously.