[Ninian Dryhope]

"Sex was a given, no need to shower, shave, appear desirable, or even interested. And definitely no need to think about her feelings, wants, desires, or idiosyncrasies on a second by second basis."

Dang, if you had put just a little effort into cleaning yourself up and acting interested in her feelings, wants, and desires you would find yourself having to date after divorce.

[wolfpat]

Nope. I quit.
I found that the common element to all my failed relationships was me.

[ASA Vet]

You’re not even sure if you’re desirable anymore

Just checked my wallet. Nope.

[FoxPro]

ping-a-ling

[DouglasKC]

Also, truth be told, if we’re completely candid with ourselves, we’ve been spoiled and pampered, accustom to having someone take care of us, make sure that our socks matched, that we didn’t embarrass ourselves at that party. Sex was a given, no need to shower, shave, appear desirable, or even interested.. And definitely no need to think about her feelings, wants, desires, or idiosyncrasies on a second by second basis.

This guy sounds like a real winner. Is it any wonder that he's not still married? I sure wouldn't be taking his advice about anything.

[teenyelliott]

If I ever found myself single again, God forbid, I would never date. Never. Ever ever.

I think that hell must be eternal dating. What a friggin nightmare.

[maggief]

What the he!! is navel gazing?

[LaineyDee]

Do more than simply pick lint from your bellybutton.

Good advice. Women like to talk, chat and be sociable. I've had a few dates that went like this:

ME: What do you typically do on your off-time?

HIM: Nothing much.

ME: Well...do you have friends/family that keep you busy?

HIM: Not really.

ME: Is there any place you dream of going or anything you've always wanted to do.... but couldn't until now?

HIM: I don't think about it much...

*DEAD AIR*

What's a gal supposed to do with that? I appreciate articles like this because it gives me a little more insight into the male species. *chuckle*

[maggief]

Is this the same guy?

http://www.wcponline.com/ArchiveNewsView.cfm?pkArticleID=1111&AT=E

As for challenges, Fleming said he's very concerned with the environmental turnaround of the Bush Administration in the United States coupled with a slowing world economy and implications on environmental and water treatment spending that's largely regulatory driven. "Ignoring politics, I think everybody would agree it really is clear the Bush Administration has pulled back on a lot of environmental drivers," Fleming said. Still, he doesn't expect that to stop his company from reaching its goal of $1 billion in sales and possibly pursuing an independent path within five years.

[MotleyGirl70]

Dating is fun.

I'd be nice if the date actually shows up as promised to find out if dating is fun.

[MotleyGirl70]

Dating is an evolutionary experience.

My first date didn't even bother to show up. So, my first experience was a horrible one.

[ValerieUSA]

So, we’re generally ill – equipped to approach that most sophisticated and evolved of all animals, the single American female.

Way too much credit given to single women here. We are not so itimidating. We have cartloads of insecurities and will compromise important dreams too easily and then distrust our own judgement... or I do anyway.

Thimk of all the mistakes being made by single women that are undermining our country's social and economic structures.. unwed motherhood, living with bums and predators and increasing drug and alcohol abuse.

Don't be afraid.. but, please, be careful.

[NittanyLion]

Sex was a given

The author lost his credibility with this statement. ;-)

[ValerieUSA]

I like the premise of the article.
Rather than follow the formula of complaining about how men do not understand women or vice versa, this one advises that before we can understand the opposite sex, we need to figure out ourselves.
He's done some introspection and has been honest about his discoveries.
Now he needs to write an article on reading comprehension.

[Smokin' Joe]

The $20 bill test. If you both consume alcoholic beverages, when you enter your favorite pub, ask her to order for you, make excuses, and head to the bathroom. Leave a twenty with her.

What did she order? Top shelf? Is that her usual? Is she a power drinker> did she get your order straight? what did she do with the change? did she tip? Your money or hers? You are learning a lot already...

Put the change on the table, and see if..she orders again and uses your money (asks, does not, pays for it herself and buys you one of what you are having?)...

You can eliminate a lot of non-starters for a twenty.

[Fierce Allegiance]

bookmarking

[SpringheelJack]

we’ve been spoiled and pampered, accustom to having someone take care of us, make sure that our socks matched, that we didn’t embarrass ourselves at that party. Sex was a given, no need to shower, shave, appear desirable, or even interested. And definitely no need to think about her feelings, wants, desires, or idiosyncrasies on a second by second basis.

Fast forward to the present. You’re separated or divorced.

Gee, I wonder why!

[apackof2]

Lookin' for another 1,000+ thread huh?

LOL

[King Prout]

I gave up on dating some years ago.
or it gave up on me.
not sure which it was, anymore.

[MadIvan]

Ok, don’t laugh here, but true story. When I came out of divorce, I sat down and wrote down the attributes of the female I wanted to meet, date, and be with, in detail, right down to hair color and body shape. Stupid? Yes, but it did provide a focus, and something to plan for. Of course, as I began dating, I found that I really didn’t know myself that well, as most of what I thought I wanted, I found to be wrong/incompatible/silly/impossible, you take your pick.

Both God and Fate laugh at you when you try and come up with such designs. The types of women I've fallen hardest for have been the kinds which seemed the most unlikely matches.

One should keep one's eyes open, be patient, wait for what the tides of destiny bring in.

Regards, Ivan