[gimme1ibertee]

From a woman's point of view....
I think what men really want is the youthful abandon and exuberance,the innocence,the joie de vive. I think if a guy could get that with a mature woman and not some little gym rat,he'd be content.After all, I should know....I'm 48 going on 18! {:D

[pissant]

I think you are onto something.

[537cant be wrong]

aaaaaaaahhhhhh ladys!
you all got it wrong.
us no good fer nuttin' pigs only want a few simple things.
1) play golf any time we want
2) an occasional home cooked
3) you put the toilet seat up

AND the reverse of "do these make me look fat" question
i.e. did that sound good? (guitar), hows that look? (any home project) and was that good for you ? (you figure it out)

it's ok to LIE LIE LIE LIE LIE LIE :-)

p.s. be married 32 years next thursday.

[HitmanLV]

I don't think that's it (though its a part of it).

I think a lot of men and women realize that there is a lot of variety out there and people willing to satisfy their carnal desires, as well as emotional ones.

With this variety comes a lot of choice. I think there is a large reluctance to bear a portion of the emotional burden of the partner ('emotional baggage'). Men and women know that, when dealing with a potential mate with a lot of baggage, it's probably easier to just find someone with less baggage (and therefore less a burden to bear).

As a general princple, fewer years on earth means less opportunity for this kind of baggage. I know there are 17-year olds with a ton of baggage, and 40-year olds with relatively fresh outlooks, but those are exceptions: more years means more experience, which means more fatigue, which means more baggage (as a general principle).

It's a form of dead reckoning, but I see it in my own life. Women at age 22 have much less baggage than women 32, who have less baggage than women who are 42.

A bias for youth is a good threshold matter to filyer out potential mates. It's not 100% accurate, but it's a good start.

[conservlib]

Look at Prince Charles, he can get any young girl he wants. He instead chose an older woman. What she has that a 25 years old hard body young thing don't have? A brain, empathy, care, patience, understanding, .....

[senrats]

I could NOT agree more! I was just pondering this today as I was lost and a little down wondering why I have enjoyed meeting and interacting with 20-25 year old women more so than others. I was feeling guilty and then decided to look around on the Net for forum talk on this subject.

I have some ideas from my own perspective as a male. I'm not really trying to blow smoke, but I am a male in my early 30s and have tried to "connect" to women aged 19-32, but seem to have the most luck with the 21-24 range.

1 - Perception: Well I am older but look younger. Everyone I run into and who approaches me, thinks I'm 25.

2 - Neverland - I'm still in a Peter Pan stage, which means though I filter experience into distilled wisdom, I still have remained beholden to certain facets of my early and mid 20s in the 1990s; clothes, "look", shows, music (Sliders, Nirvana, etc..)

3 - Life for life or Life for practicality:
Men can be practical, but they don't want their women to be that way... women over 28 or so seem to be "shopping" for mates. They are looking for upward mobility, nice bank accounts and security and men notice this. Men as much as women, do not like to be objectified and find less stress when they turn their affections to younger less and less "status" demanding women.

Women under 30 enjoy singular moments more and enjoy their men for who they are inside (and out). They don't ignore personal recklessness, but they also allow you to feel proud of who you are and not for how much power, influence or security you can offer. Live life with us as a joy partner and not as a business partner.

I hope that women over 30 will think about how they approach men and hopefully it's not all to objectify his "station" in life. I for one don't think I owe it to anyone to break above $40k a year, though I will soon. I am lucky and many are not. I want to feel that my income matters not.

Sorry to ramble ;)